5 ways a simple timer will completely change your life.

5 clever ways to use a timer throughout your day to make your life MUCH easier, from FunCheapOrFree.com

Since it’s “Focus on Learning” month, I’m really honing in on ways that I can be more organized, and efficient. One of the things I’ve started doing this year that has made a HUUUGGGEEE difference in my life is to use a simple timer! Not sure why it took me so long to figure it out. But using a simple timer has helped me solve (or at least greatly help) some recurring issues in my life:

  • Nagging my kids to move faster, turn off the TV, get their chores done…
  • Feeling like I was doing nothing but cleaning all day, but not really accomplishing anything…
  • Not giving myself ample time to relax during the day, or relaxing for too long and feeling guilty for wasting inordinate amounts of time…

These and many more things can all be made better by using a simple kitchen timer, watch, clock feature on your phone, stopwatch, or sun dial (let’s hope not…). Here are some of the ways I use a timer throughout my day to make my life much easier:

1. Use a timer to make meal times a breeze

5 ways using a simple timer will completely change your life, from FunCheapOrFree.com

My kids are young (I have 3 kids, the oldest is 4.5). They are NOT motivated by food. Meal times became a marathon event full of threatening, nagging, and punishing to get them to eat all their food. Sounds dramatic? Yes, it really was.

One day I had it. I went to the oven, set the timer for 10 minutes, and announced that anyone who was finished with their food by the time the timer beeped got dessert. The rest of the 10 minutes was filled with chit chat, singing, casual banter – because I wasn’t yelling and nagging any more. When the timer beeped, neither of my two older kids (my baby is off the hook…for now…muahaha) had finished their dinner. I dumped their plates (they said they were finished), and Bubba and I enjoyed a huge bowl of ice cream in front of them.

They threw a fit, of course…but that’s now their problem, not mine. It’s all about transferring pressure from us, to that mean ol’ timer.

Use a timer to help make mealtime run smoothly!

Hutch, sad that he doesn’t get to eat his beloved blue Otter Pop because he didn’t finish dinner before the timer went off.

Now, the “dinner’s up” timer is a regular occurrence in our house! Here are some ways I’ve learned to make it ultra successful:

  • Keep the dessert simple. We usually just do an Otter Pop or a frozen GoGurt. Sometimes it’s a cookie, or even 1/2 a cookie. Sometimes it’s 1 piece of candy. It doesn’t have to be much, just enough to reward and motivate.
  • We’re careful to not give them more than they could/should eat, because they have to eat every bite of what’s on their plate before the time runs out to get dessert.
  • They don’t HAVE to eat everything that’s on their plate…but they do if they want dessert. They can declare being done eating at any time, but every bite has to be eaten (and eaten before the timer beeps) if they want dessert. And they have to remain sitting with the rest of the family, until everyone is done. If they are hungry after dinner, they can have more dinner. No snacks.
  • I only use the meal timer as-needed. Some days I don’t need the timer. They are starving, or love dinner, or the stars are aligned for whatever reason and dinner goes off without a hitch. I just play it by ear and if I feel like they need it, the timer comes out.
  • We use the timer for any meal, not just dinner.
  • This really comes in handy on mornings when they have school and it seems like a battle to get everyone out the door on time.

2. Use a timer to keep your house clean.

5 ways a simple timer will completely change your life! From FunCheapOrFree.com

Sometimes I look at my house and feel absolutely overwhelmed. Between the deep-cleaning, organizing, and just staying on top of the day-to-day messes, there are days where I just ignore it all because there is NO WAY I could possibly get it all done…

…right?

I started using a simple timer to help me stay motivated, and on-top of messes. When my kids go down for naps, for example, I’ll choose one room to work on (like the kitchen). I’ll set a timer for 5, 10, or 15 minutes (not usually longer than that). I’ll work as hard and fast as I can until the timer beeps. Then I stop what I’m doing, even if it’s mid-spray, and move on with my day, or move on to another room and do the same thing.

Let me tell you what…it’s AMAZING what you can do in 5 minutes when you buckle down, focus, and you feel a sense of urgency. Here are some tips for how to make this work well:

  • Start with general cleaning first, then move to fine details only if you still have time once the general cleaning is done. Start by picking things up and putting them where they go. If they belong in another room, put it all in a laundry basket, then take 1 of the minutes to run around and put everything back where it goes.
  • Be sure to stop when the timer stops! You’re setting the timer for a reason, mostly because you’re short on time and want to stay motivated. If it becomes a marathon event every time you do this, your subconscious will want to do it less and less.
  • Get your family involved! We will often do a 3 minute “blitz clean-up” before dinner and make a game out of it. Whoever can pick up the most items, or get their specific job done in the 3 minutes gets a piece of candy before dinner, or gets their stick moved up on their behavior chart, or gets a high-five from us.

One phrase that runs through my mind when doing this is… “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time”. Think of your house as an elephant, and embrace tackling it bit by bit! (or bite by bite, if you’d rather…)

3. Use a timer to schedule guilt-free R&R into your day

5 ways using a simple timer will completely change your life, from FunCheapOrFree.com

As a mom the work is never done. EVER. (especially with Bubba being gone for work.) I, like my own mother, am a “doer”. I tend to feel guilty when I sit and veg out, and am not really “accomplishing” anything which is why I’m such a multi-tasker. (Can anyone relate?)

I found myself getting burned out and cranky with my hubby and kids because I wasn’t taking time to take care of ME in the day. Ironically, it led me to being less productive because I was slugging through my day, unmotivated to accomplish much. Thanks to a little timer, R&R is more balanced for me now.

I will choose certain times in my day – usually once while my kids are napping, and once at night right after we put the kids down, before I tackle the dinner mess and tornado from the day. I will give myself guilt-free time to do whatever I want – social media, Pinterest, sit and watch pointless reality TV, read, nap, whatever! When the timer goes off, I feel reenergized and ready to tackle all of the things I need to accomplish before day’s end. The amount of time I set on the timer varies from day to day, depending on how I feel or how much I do/don’t need to get done that day.

Either way, it’s helped me slow down, and focus on ME for a minute. Literally.

4. Use a timer to help manage screen-time

5 ways using a simple timer will completely change your life, from FunCheapOrFree.com

We aren’t huge TV watchers in our house, but we certainly love a good show or kid movie to help ease the kids into the day, motivate them to “earn” screen-time, or just help keep them occupied for a minute so I can rush and finish something that needs finishing.

BUT…

No matter what the day, time, hour, show, or reason, my kids almost always throw a FIT when I walk in and turn the TV off. I was so sick of it!

So now, I give my kids fair warning. When it’s time for the TV to go off I will tell them, “3 minutes until the show gets turned off, even if it the [show or game] is not over!”. I set the timer on my phone, and set the phone right next to them. Once the timer goes off, I sing-song cheerily “Yay! You guys got to watch so much TV, how fun! The timer is telling me it’s time to turn it off now, can’t wait for you to watch it again next time!”. And CLICK. The screen (iPad, computer, TV, phone, etc) goes off.

It’s AMAZING the difference. It’s helped cut down dramatically on “screen withdrawal tantrums” especially.

It also keeps us parents in check and helps as avoid turning our kids into zombies by sticking them in front of a screen too much. I know some parents that have their kids earn minutes of screen time for every 5 minutes they play outside (or do something active, or read, etc.). There are lots of ways a timer can help make the screen-time battle more peaceful!

  • Note: This timer method works well for ending any sort of activity for kids – playing at a park, leaving a friend’s house, time to clean up toys, etc. By giving them even one minute warning and setting it on a timer, it helps give them time to mentally prepare for the fun to end, and again, transfers pressure off of you!

5. Use a timer to rescue bedtime.

5 ways using a simple timer will completely change your life, from FunCheapOrFree.com

My daughter Priya might only be 3, but boy that girl is a CHATTER BOX! At night when we’re tucking her into bed, it’s like someone put a quarter in her and gave her a shot of Red Bull. She talks at lightening speed, and finds any and all reason to keep us in the room; “I need a drink”…”I want another story”…”I want to tell you something”…”I want to wear different jammies”. We found bedtime with Priya dragging out to a 30, 45, even 60-minute process some nights. All the while my quiet 4 year old wasn’t getting much quality time with us at all, simply because he wasn’t demanding it.

Now we’ve started doing “tuck-in time” to even the playing field, and make sure kids are getting quality time at bedtime…while keeping the process down to an efficient timeline.

The way it works is:

  • We read books and pray together as a family first. Then we separate the kids into their own rooms for individual tuck-in time.
  • The kids get 1 minute of tuck-in time per year (so Hutch gets 4 minutes since he’s 4, Priya gets 3 minutes).
  • We can read extra books to/with them during their tuck-in time, or we do “talking time” if they prefer. Whatever it is, it has to be done in their bed, with them laying down.
  • We set the timer, and I say “What would you like to talk about, Priya?” and off she goes! She rambles at record pace for the 3 minutes. We also use this time to talk about what is going on the next day, exciting things coming up on the calendar, etc.
  • When the timer goes off we both put our hands over our mouths and stop talking, mid-sentence (whether it’s “talking-time” or reading together). If Priya, for example, tries to keep talking I cut her off and whisper, “the timer is beeping! We can’t talk any more, you’ll wake your [stuffed] animals!” and try to make a game out of it. If she starts whining or fighting me on it I’ll get more stern and say something like “Uh oh, if you talk after the timer beeps then we have to take away 1 minute of tuck-in time tomorrow” and that tends to do the trick.

Tuck-in time WORKS. Like. A. Friggin. Champ.

For Priya, she gets time to tell us all sorts of things that are on their mind, and there is a reasonable stopping point without us turning into mean monster parents.

It works in the opposite way for Hutch. It gets him talking, and helps us engage in conversation with him that we might not think to do otherwise, because he simply doesn’t talk as much as Priya! He gets several precious minutes of undivided attention from mom and/or dad, which makes him feel loved and helps us get to know him better.

The kids can earn extra time on their behavior chart, or if we feel like they are extra wiggly or needy that night we will sneak in an extra minute or two.

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So, there you go! Those are just 5 of the ways I use a timer in my day to help me stay efficient, and to ease tension and tantrums in the Page household.

Do YOU ever use timers? If so, how does setting a timer help in your day? Please fill us in by leaving a comment!

Have a good TIME today! (har, har, har…)

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  1. Ok, I’m new to your blog (my mom’s been a fan for years) and this post is AMAZING. I love it!! There are so many ways I can see us using this in the future. I have a 6 month old, so we obviously aren’t there yet (obv) but still pinning it for future reference! Thank you!!!

    • I’m so glad you like it! The list could go on and on, it’s amazing what a little timer can do. Congrats on the baby 🙂 Thanks for reading!

  2. I LOVE the timer method! Especially for laundry, since that seems to be my Achilles heel. I’ll let 3-4 loads of clean laundry pile up & then I feel too overwhelmed to tackle it. I’ve learned to set the timer for 20 minutes & give laundry my full attention for that time & I ALWAYS finish. I always feel so accomplished!

  3. YOU ARE AMAZING! Seriously, this is why you’re my favorite. I NEEDED this in my life right now! I’m so overwhelmed, I just haven’t been doing any of it! This will help my Type A personality and my lazy attitude lately. Seriously, thank you!

    • Kelsey I’m SO GLAD! I wrote this thinking, “this is a dumb post – I hope people actually find this useful”. So if no one else does, I’m glad that YOU liked it!! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  4. This is such a funny coincidence – this very morning, I used a timer to get myself ready while my kids were eating breakfast. I set it for 20 minutes, but since everyone was happy AND I didn’t have mascara on yet, I set it for 5 more, then finished my routine with time to tidy up the bathroom. 25 minutes to shower, dress, hair and makeup – not bad!!The best part is it forced me to choose my outfit and get it all done without obsessing. It worked so well, we were out at the bus stop 10 minutes early! I am SO inspired to start timing all sorts of things. Thanks for the tips, Jordan!

  5. Jordan! I love your blog! Don’t stop! Everything you write inspires us to do better! Remember for every comment, there’s at least ten more bashful viewers nodding our heads.:)
    I’ve used timers for kids who struggle w/ homework and practicing music… I’ve heard the concept of using it for chores, but(duh) haven’t used it for myself yet. I think my time will be better managed if I do!!! Thanks for the reminder!

  6. Saturday mornings are usually my big cleaning days so I use a timer to make sure I don’t get worn out in one area. It can vary too – 10 min in the bathroom, 10 min picking up and sorting clothing, and 5 min vacuuming the living room. Just something that helps me know the end is in site and I wont have to do that one job forever, which is how it normally feels am i right?

  7. TUCK-IN TIME?!?! You are a genius!! Just last night my girls spent almost 2 hours doing the I need a drink… I need to potty… I need to tell you something…. I want another hug/kiss…. But I mean seriously how can you say no to a hug/kiss? Tuck in time will be great! They will both get their one on one time! After they finally went to sleep last night I hit Pinterest looking for something to help me. I didn’t find much, but I’m so glad I checked your blog today! You are great! Thanks for the tips!!!!!

  8. I love the idea for ending bed time. We do it to start because it helps our autistic son, but he’s fine at the end-never thought to implement it to end the night for our daughter. Great idea.

    I also use a timer for reading time. For every 10 minutes our daughter reads out loud to me she earns 10 minutes of TV time. It really helps kids know there’s a definitive end to activities and they don’t need to worry that mommy forgot. This has been a game changer at house this last week or so.

  9. Loved this. I would much rather the timer be the bad guy than me.

    So, maybe I am the last to know, but I just asked my iphone to set a timer and Siri asked me for how long! Love it. And my toothbrush has a two minute timer that I use to tidy up my bathroom with my free hand while I brush my teeth.

  10. This is so great! I have the same issues at dinner time and bed time. I have 3 under 4, and this will make my life so much easier. Thanks for posting!!

  11. I use a timer when my kids are in the shower! They will be in there for-e-ver if I don’t set the timer. Works great for us! 🙂

  12. When my list for the day is super long, or both kids are at home and both want my undivided attention to play with them. We use a timer Mom gets 20 mins for baking, cooking, cleaning. Kid 1 gets 20 mins for play of their choice(barbies, ponies) kid 2 gets 20 mins for play of his choice. and we go around and around like that all day. I usually don’t feel like SUPER accomplished but at the end of the day everyone felt like they got a chance to do what they wanted to do and have a little bit of say in the activities. It cuts down on fighting, kids getting bored and intentionally wrecking others play and motivates them to share, think together and participate in each others interests. “timer days”, at the end of the day are always THE BEST DAY EVER MOM.

  13. Using the timer for making the kids eat their meal sounds like … hum a terrible idea to my ears :

    – In my opinion, as a parent, your duty is to provide healthy food and it’s up to the kid to decide how much of it he/she eats… I believe that it is important to always be aware of one’s feeling (feeling satiated or not) to get healthy eating habits. I thought that it was common sense that, there is only pressure to try one bit of something new :S
    – Why do you consider the dessert as a reward ? Either you consider it as something healthy and the kids get them. Or it is not healthy, and then there is no point in buying them and offering them to the kids. I mean daily !

    Yes, that is a bit black and white… But I am not sure how to explain this more clearly. I have witnessed parents pressuring their kids to finish their plate. I juste hate it :'(

  14. The timer idea is a life saver! I have no little ones in the house any more but you’d be amazed how much of a mess 2 grown men can create in a days time. Alot of days I look at it and think ” it’s going to take me forever to get this back to normal…” But I take a deep breathe, set the timer for 15 minutes and take off. It never fails to surprise me how much I can actually do in a mere 15 minutes!

  15. Glad I found your blog, Jordan, and loads of good info! I’m going back through time, reading and enjoying!

    Timers are GREAT things… I use them all the time at home and at work, for all sorts of things! It’s fabulous and shifts the pressure off.

    However, like Cecile, I’d be weary of using a timer at meal times the way you do, but for a different reason altogether. 10 minutes is really not a lot of time for anyone to finish a meal, even a toddler, and encouraging to gobble up a meal can lead you to all sorts of trouble down the line with overeating simply because the digestive system simply hasn’t had time to signal the brain that it’s full.

    Yes you control their portion size… now… but when they hit the teenage years you won’t be able to do so anymore and by then it’s a learned behaviour. Countless medical studies have shown that overweight people tend to eat far faster than normal-sized people. I’m *not* saying that eating fast makes you fat, but that fat people, on average, eat too fast and as a result often overeat. The satiety hormone doesn’t hit the brain until it’s far too late and by then they’ve eaten too much. Do that too often over time and your stomach stretches, so it takes more to fill, which means more food is needed to trigger the release of the hormones, etc…. Vicious circle.

    Plus, shoving food down is really bad manners (as is dawdling forever over a meal for that matter).

    Yes, there are days you’ll need to get them to eat quickly for some reason or other, but it shouldn’t be the norm.

  16. I love the idea of using a timer for cleaning. I’ve actually been doing this for a while, just without the rigidity of the timer, which I think would help. I’ll usually look at the clock when I’m not in the mood to clean and tell myself, “You just have to clean for 15 minutes. After you do that, you can sit down and read/watch tv/go to bed.” Usually, I end up cleaning for longer, because I get into it, but the finite time definitely helps me get started.

    Now, as for the timer at dinner, I completely disagree with this. First of all, I don’t believe making my children “clean their plates” is good for anyone in the family. It can promote overeating, it can make food feel like a punishment, and it doesn’t allow for children to form their own opinions about what to eat. We make our son try everything once, but we never force him to eat everything on his plate. He stops eating when he is done eating. If there’s a full plate left, we remind him that that’s all the dinner he gets, and he either tells us he’s done, or he sits down for a little more to eat. Some nights he barely eats anything, and others he asks for two more servings. Obesity is a huge (no pun intended) problem in the US, and “cleaning the plate” is one of the many contributors to that problem. Feeling free to leave food uneaten is an important part of learning to understand your own appetite. Adding a timer to that not only communicates that you shouldn’t pay attention to your own hunger cues, but also that you have to cram it into your food-hole as fast as you can. (It can take me upwards of half an hour to eat my full dinner, between the socializing that happens at dinner time, and toddlers take even longer.) At the same time, you don’t want dinner to be a fight, which I understand. But I just don’t think a timer and a plate-clearing requirement are the way to do that.
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    • Great thoughts and feedback! I love seeing the different perspectives! Thanks for reading XOXO

  17. I am new to your site (known about it for awhile but recently got hooked on it) and have been reading my way through lots of your posts! I love this one. I set a timer sometimes but this is motivating me to use it more, especially for me. I, too, am amazed at just how quickly I can get something done in a short amount of time. One thing I’ve been doing lately when a daily task feels overwhelming or I just feel unmotivated to do it, is thinking in my mind, “ok, how long does it really take to do the dishes. it only takes 10-30 minutes depending on the meal so just get it done. You won’t regret it if you get it done but you will regret it if you don’t.” It helps me to move forward and do it even if I don’t feel like it. Knowing that it really doesn’t take that much time really helps! I also do things like trying to see how much I can get done while the toast is in the toaster or other things. I love a good challenge and its very motivating to me!

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