We are firm believers that if you spend a little focused time with your kids, it will make a world of a difference! Help your kids better their confidence, motivation, and daily attitudes. We're going over how to make quality time with kids by focusing on one of our favorite parts of the day, tuck in time!
As you probably know, we have 8 young kids, 10 and under. Yes…our house is always messy, and yes, they fight like cats and dogs some days. Once upon a time, we felt like their negative behavior was escalating more than usual. They were getting more negative attention from us than we liked. We took something my parents use to do in our house growing up, and added our own Page twist to it that has now changed our world for the better!
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This new system of quality time with kids helps you to get focused one-on-one time with them, which is so important for that parent-child bond. Bonus? It helps to motivate them during the day, cuts down on the bickering, and gives them a special day during the week to do some fun things, including Tuck In Time.
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Crazy-simple, right?? Let's go over a few of our favorite tips for making quality time with kids work for your family.
FIGURE OUT WHAT AGE YOU WANT TO START
It's amazing how choosing to give some extra focus and attention to a single kid throughout the week can really make a difference in their attitude and confidence. We start doing this when they start going to school and spend a lot of time away from Mom and Dad, which is usually around 4 or 5. The younger kids who are home with us all day get plenty of focused time, so they don't really need it like the older kids do.
However, if you don't stay at home with your kids during the day, then feel free to start this at a younger age. If you have a child who is struggling for attention, they are sure to love our quality time with kids method.
WHAT THEY GET TO DO ON THEIR SPECIAL DAY
Your kids will be so excited when their “special day” rolls around. We've had lots of success by letting them be in charge of choosing these items. You'll be amazed at how doing this will reduce the amount of bickering over the things that seem so little to you, but are so big for the kids.
Let them choose:
- All of their dinnerware – plate, cup, fork, spoon, bowl, etc.
- Where they sit at the dinner table
- What music you listen to in the car
- Where they sit in the car if they're old enough and aren't in a car seat or booster seat anymore
- What show they watch after school (after their clipboards are done, of course!)
- What music you listen to when you're cleaning up dinner
The sky's the limit here! You could definitely include more in their special day if there are other things your kids are constantly wanting to be in control over.
OUR FAVORITE QUALITY TIME WITH KIDS – TUCK IN TIME
At the end of their special day, they get to do something that has easily become everybody's favorite time of the week. They get to stay up an extra 15 minutes for some one-on-one Tuck In Time with Mom or Dad. Bubba and I rotate days, so we each end up getting quality time with each kid during the week.
IDEAS FOR QUALITY TIME
We basically leave it up to the kid to choose what we do during Tuck In Time since it is their special day. What may seem fun to us may not necessarily be fun for the kid. For the most part, we try to stay away from screens because they keep you from interacting together. That being said, sometimes after a long and rough day, we'll let them choose an educational or interactive show where we can at least talk about what's going on.
Here are some of our favorite quality time with kids activities:
- Talk about your day
- Play board games
- Read a book together
- Play with their favorite toys
- Write a story
- Fill out mad libs
- Tell/make up jokes
- Play with stuffed animals
- Sing your favorite songs
- Have a puppet show
- Talk about their dreams and future
- Do a puzzle
- Build Lego masterpieces
There are so many other options out there, but those should get your wheels turning!
HOW TO MAKE QUALITY TIME WITH KIDS
Alright, so let's get into the nitty gritty of how to actually work this into your week. You have to stay consistent in rotating your kids throughout the week. This will establish it as a routine and they'll come to know it and love it! They may be upset at the beginning when it's not their day, but they'll quickly learn to look forward to their special day!
Saturdays are usually pretty crazy for us, so we've decided to skip that day since we wouldn't be able to consistently let it be somebody's special day where they would for sure get Tuck In Time. Whatever days you choose, make sure they're usually pretty “normal” so nobody is ever getting left out of their special day.
Depending on how many kids you have, you can give them a specific day of the week. You can also rotate their days if you have more kids than days. Just make it work for your family!
It has been fun to see what songs they want to listen to and the things they want to do with us at night. I really look forward to “my night” with the kids so much!
HOW TO “FIND” THE TIME
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Alright, well there you have it! Try out our method of getting quality time with kids and let us know how you like it. Do you do anything like this with your kids? If you do, share below so we can learn how you do it as well! It's a simple thing, but I hope it helps bring some peace to your home as it has ours so far.
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