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- More often then not, people are absolutely tight-lipped about spending money, and usually don't talk about how much they spend on things.
As humans we will talk about a horrific injury, or giving birth in explicit detail…but won't mention how much they pay for groceries each month.
We will talk about and compare stretch marks and love handles, but won't discuss how much we pay for Christmas for our kids.
It's about time someone set the record straight and declared a standard for all of us to aim for!
I understand that you may or may not agree with the standards I am setting…but hear me out!
- 1. Yes, I understand that everyone is different! You might have only 1 child, and someone else may have 7 children. You may live in upstate New York where cost of living is much higher than in the Utah suburbs. You may choose to pay more for some things, and pay less elsewhere. That's all ok!! Please know that I completely understand that everyone, and every situation, are different. Try to take these tips and standards with a grain of salt and use the philosophies to set your OWN standards and try to save money wherever you can.
- But, more than anything, just know that with a little effort, you CAN cut most of your spending in half. Yes, half.Don't know how? These standards show that you are most likely over-paying for unnecessary things in your life. P.S…Come to my boot camp and I'll teach you plenty more ways to save 🙂
- Lastly, these standards are set based on research and weren't pulled out of thin air. Not only my personal research (trial and error in my own life), but I also conducted a survey on my site recently and got hundreds of responses that solidified these standards.
Hands down, this is THE #1 question that, when I ask, people have no idea what to answer. There is never a confident answer!
- Because it's situational. It depends on where you live, the number of kids you have, how old your babysitter is, etc. Here is a standard for you to start from to – hopefully – set the record straight once and for all.
- Because we don't want to feel cheap. If you're anything like me, you value a good babysitter (and won't settle for anything less), but don't want to (or simply can't!) pay a lot for child care. We feel tentative in our answer because we don't want to sound like tight-wads or cheapskates that promote slave labor in babysitters. Trust me, that's not the case!
Babysitter = One-time thing. Simple, occasional, as-needed, basic. (Date night, need to run to the store, girls night, whatever it is). You pick them up, they watch your kids, you drop them off at home.
Nanny = A more advanced, frequent caregiver. They are typically college aged or older, they come regularly (or semi-regularly), drive themselves, and do additional chores (drive your kids to and from activities, do your laundry, grocery shop for you, tutor your kids, etc.).
Do not confuse the two! A nanny would start anywhere from $10-$15+. In this situation I am talking about a babysitter, not a nanny.
That being said, here you go!
- You can round up at the end of the night if your babysitter does an exceptional job, but don't feel like you have to tip exorbitantly on top of the second standard chart.
- Make sure to provide them dinner, snacks, treats, give them access to your TV or computer to use once the kids are in bed, and make them as comfortable as possible.
Quick soap box comment…
- Your kids are awake most of the time, as apposed to sleeping.
- You have young kids that require more work, like babies and toddlers, as apposed to older kids that can basically fend for themselves.
- Your babysitter leaves your house better than how you left it.
- Your babysitter drives herself to and from your house.
- Your babysitter is older, like a college-age student.
- You are late, or having them babysit at an inconvenient time like the middle of the night.
- They are doing extra-hard work like taking them to the zoo, or babysitting when their friends are over.
- If you have a regular caregiver like a nanny, you'll need to pay more. BUT…keep in mind that they should be doing more than just watching your kids! (Tidying the house, laundry, preparing their meals, etc.)
- Ask around. See if your neighbors use them and what they thought.
- Have them babysit while you're around. Have them watch the kids for an hour or two so you can get housework done. Sure, they will be on their best behavior while you're there, but at least you can get a general idea of how they are with kids.
- Test them. Be sneaky if you have to! Come home 30 minutes early. Unfortunately, you might catch them watching TV while your kids are playing in the back yard. Sneaky, yes. Worth it to know if your kids are being well cared for? Absolutely.
Once you find a sitter you like, do all you can to keep them happy!
- Because as americans, we typically spend a lot on groceries, and we tend to stay tight-lipped on things we spend a lot on.
- Because we don't want to feel embarrassed if the other person spends differently than we do.
- Sure, babies don't eat much…but they have diapers that cost a lot.
- Sure, there may be 7 of you, but no need to pay more than $600 because as long as your cooking, adding another mouth shouldn't be that costly.
- Sure, 8+ people in your family is a lot. But there are TONS of ways to cut costs and keep it under $800 (Grow your own produce. Cook inexpensive meals. Buy bulk. More tips below.) If anything, big families should be trying to spend less than anyone else because you have so many other expenses! $800 is very reasonable, and I actually had a hard time writing it because I know you can keep it much below that. But I'm trying to offer some wiggle room, here 🙂
- Convenience. Oh man, I am a BIG FAN of convenience!!!! With grocery shopping, this is typically the #1 reason we overpay. We shop at the store closest to us even if it's prices are more expensive, we don't want to shop at multiple stores because it takes too much time, or we simply don't care enough and want to do whatever is easiest (trust me, I hear ya!).
- Being picky or even trendy. Some of us choose to shop at expensive “boutique-type” grocery stores because it's trendy, some of us are picky about our food and want the best (no problem in that!), or we don't want to feel cheap shopping at a low-priced grocery store.
- Lack of knowledge. We simply don't know how to save money on groceries other than clipping coupons!
- Deal-shop. Look through the ads and find the best deals for the week. Each week stores typically have loss-leader items where they actually lose money on the deal to get you into the store. Stock up on the deals and plan your meals around them. It's that easy!
- Price-match. I use dealstomeals.com to find all the best deals for me (so I don't have to look through the ads. I'm all about convenience, remember??), I print off the list of good deals from the stores near me, I take the printed list to Walmart and price-match. That way I only have to shop at one store but can take advantage of all the best prices.
- Buy bulk. The more you buy, the more you save. Genius! Click HERE for what I buy in bulk and why.
- Don't waste. ANYTHING. EVER. Use every scrap of leftovers. Eat it for lunch. Use it in another meal. Freeze it. (Don't know what you can and can't freeze? Try it! If it doesn't work, you'll now know for the future.) Put wilting produce into a smoothie. Plan your meals around what you have in your fridge before buying new groceries. USE. WHAT. YOU. HAVE.
- Cook, and plan your meals in advance. This is this biggest money-saving advice I can give you. When 5:00 rolls around and you're exhausted from a long day, the last thing you want to do is come up with what to make from dinner from the top of your head. That's typically when you open an expensive bag of frozen fish sticks, or call your nearest Chinese restaurant. No, no, no my lovely people! Keep a list of go-to meals on your fridge, and try to plan your meals a few days in advance (a week or two in advance is best, but any advance planning is helpful!). You will be SHOCKED at how much you will save.
- Only buy what you need. Once you have your meals planned, make a list and stick with it! If you don't have a plan when shopping, you WILL overspend. By a lot. Make your week's meal list in advance and base it on what's on sale that week. That's it. SO EASY!
- A cheap haircut = a bad haircut…right? (wrong, just for the record.)
- I've never thought to shop around for a cheaper stylist, I just found one I liked and stuck with it.
- There's no way I could cut my kids' or husband's hair myself, so I'll pay anything for someone else to do it for me.
- Shop around. Go to the web, they are EVERYWHERE! Dollar Cuts offers affordable cuts, and here in Utah Craigs Cuts offers $7 haircuts with $5 deal days. Can't beat that.
- Look for a coupon. Remember my “10 most unused discounts” post? Never throw away your junk mail! If you look closely enough, you will get plenty of haircut coupons.
- Don't judge a book by it's cover. Just because a salon has a fancy name doesn't make it better than others. If a salon is in a small or old-looking building, that doesn't mean the stylist got any less schooling than a stylist in a ritzy salon. It's all about overhead and image! A salon that has lower overhead can offer lower prices. It's a numbers game.
- Keep in mind that a cheap haircut does NOT necessarily mean a bad haircut! Just for the record, I have had plenty of pricey haircuts that did not turn out as I would've hoped. I get my hair cut/colored at a salon for $45 and it looks great! Trust me…
the stylist is more important than the price tag.
- Ask your social network. All my stylists have come to be via word of mouth. Ask around. Post on facebook, “I'm looking for a good stylist in the Salt Lake area to give me a cut/color for around $70. Know of anyone?” Trust me…you'll get a response!
- Stylists that work from home will typically be cheaper. The last two stylists I've used both do hair out of their house. Sure, shampooing my hair is tougher because it's in their kitchen sink, but at 1/2 the cost, it's worth it for me! PS…they have both been awesome.
- Ask for discounts. My current stylist works in a salon. She offers a discount when you book your next appointment on the spot, bringing my price to around $75 for a cut/color, in a salon! Booya.
- Do it yourself. Cut your kids' hair and husband's hair at home! Honestly, I'm outright anti “get your kids' hair cut in a salon” to be honest. Why? They are kids! They don't shouldn't care! Their haircuts are simple (or should be anyway). My philosophy? Cut it at home. If they want a fancy style from a salon, tell them to save up their allowance and they can do whatever they want with their hair. That's what I did growing up, and I chose to spend my own money to get a cut and color in a salon in high school in between having my friends do it for me at home. It really taught me to manage my money and value every dollar I spent.
- How? Go to Youtube.com, and search “how to cut hair at home” or something of the sort. Hundreds of videos will pop up. Buy yourself a set of clippers, and do it yourself for heaven's sake! It may take a few practice runs, but in the end, the savings will be worth it. And trust me, you get faster as you go.
- One of my readers said: “I use John freida precision foam hair color…so easy! You lather like shampoo and rinse. Love, love it. Write to john freida and they send you a coupon for a free box. So i signed my in laws, parents, and myself up. 🙂 As for hair cuts, we go to great clips for 7.99. They have coupons once a month in our savvy shoppers and junk mail. :)”
- Go to a beauty school. In college, my apartment was right by the Paul Mitchell school salon in Provo, UT. I would get a somewhat complicated cut, and FULL color + weave there every few months. To this day, it's the best my hair has ever looked. Ever. I miss my student stylist that I'd always go to and wish she moved here with me. A few beauty school salon tips:
- Know in advance that it takes a bit longer than an average salon. Plan ahead, and use that time to your advantage. Read a good book. Catch up on emails on your phone. Call your friend that you haven't spoken to in ages. Use that as “you time” and enjoy it, and it will work to your benefit.
- Go for a senior student, or “Phase 2” as it's called at Paul Mitchell. They are simply more experienced.
- The students are very closely monitored by their teachers, so NO, they will not make your hair lop-sided and bright pink unintentionally. Their every move is closely monitored, hence the fact that it takes a bit longer than an average cut.
- Beauty schools ALWAYS have deals and specials! Call them, look for coupons, or look online. They offer happy hour, coupons, specials, 2 for 1 deals, etc.
- Beauty schools also offer great deals on spa services like pedicures, facials, and other services and sometimes offer discounts for getting multiple services at once.
Reasonable, right?? Let me tell you, you can do A LOT with $20. That is P-L-E-N-T-Y of money to put together a fantastic gift. Christmas? If you can do a lot with $20, you can do even more with $100. $100 is absolutely more than enough to give someone a fantastic Christmas.
Note about Christmas: For your children (tween and younger) I REALLY recommend doing $50 instead of $100. But if you save up enough throughout the year and if you can afford it (and choose to afford it) then just promise me that you'll never go above $100. It's really not necessary.
Here's how to pull off affordable gift-giving:
- Get creative. You don't have to BUY a gift to make it awesome, and you certainly don't have to be handy, crafty, or overly creative to pull off (or come up with) a creative gift idea. Make things yourself. Get your mom's photo albums and put make them digital for her. Write a poem and frame it. Make a family recipe book for a shower gift. Trust me…the less you spend, the MORE thought, heart, and love you have to put into it…thus making it a killer gift.
- Need more ideas? Hit the web! Check out blogs! Google it! Look for tutorials on Youtube! Ask around! See my page HERE for ideas. Start noticing things that people do for others.
- Buy off-season.Go after Christmas and stock up on gifts for the rest of the year. Buy baby clothes off-season and keep a stash on-hand for baby showers. I have a “gift stash” at my house. If I ever see a great clearance item I will buy it and save it so I always have a few go-to gifts.
- Plan ahead for big gifts. I, personally, would rather get one BIG gift (that I wouldn't or couldn't buy for myself otherwise) for than a bunch of small ones. If you want to get someone a big gift that doesn't fit within the price ranges above…
- Save up. If I want to buy my husband a bike for Christmas, I try not to spend much on his other gifts throughout the year. I will get more creative and make his other gifts, or buy them on sale, then use that extra money toward his big Christmas gift.
- Make it a group gift. My husband is great at this. He finds out what I want for Christmas (this year it was a Roomba automatic vacuum…my favorite gift EVER), then gets everyone else on-board. My mom, my in-laws, siblings, the whole gang. He sends out an email saying, “Jordan wants ___ for Christmas, do you guys want to go in on it with me?” 90% of the time everyone does. If not everyone does and he doesn't have enough, then I save the money and try again for my birthday, or I use it for a lesser – but still awesome – gift.
- Lighten up on gifts for your kids. I am guilty of wanting to buy my kids the world. They are just so dang adorable, I can't help myself! It's easy to do, but we really should NOT overindulge our kids like society tends to do. $30 for your child's birthday is PLENTY. If they have a birthday party, I would say it should be even less! One gift is great. If they want more, have them earn an allowance and buy whatever they want. It will teach them more in the long-run and will make your life a lot easier.
- Buy used. Let's get real here, your kids don't have to have brand new everything, or state-of-the-art everything. Some of my kid's favorite toys I have bought from yard sales and thrift stores. My husband doesn't have to have a brand new mountain bike. He could actually get a nicer one that's used, than buying a new one in the price-point that I have a budget for!
It's all about balance.
Want to learn more about living a balanced frugal lifestyle? Join me and 6 other amazing guest speakers at my first annual Frugality Boot Camp on June 23rd. More information HERE.
Keep me posted on how it goes, and good luck!
Passing the gift photo source HERE
Woman with gift photo source HERE