We've compiled all of our marriage advice in one place, and you definitely don't want to miss it! Make your marriage stronger than ever with these tips we've learned over the years.
WARNING: This has (almost) nothing to do with finance or frugal living. And I'm going to pretend to be Dr. Phil for a hot minute. But don't run, I promise it will be worth your time! We've decided to answer a few questions centered around marriage and the challenges that come along with it. Now, I know we seem like sisters, but believe it or not, I am no Oprah. Oh, and to set the rumors straight, we are not sisters.
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BUT… I have been married since 2007. I do have eight kids. Our marriage is strong and thriving, sure. But we have been on the brink of “wow, are we really going to make it?” to the climax of crazy-stupid in love, “holy crap, how did I get so lucky to marry this person??” (and every stage in-between). So I guess you could say that while I don't have the letters behind my name that a formal therapist has, I did get a master's degree in the school of the hard knocks and happened to graduate top in my class of “learn the hard way”-ers.
Before we get to all our our great marriage advice (that you definitely don't wanna miss, by the way), let's first talk about…
HOW THIS MARRIAGE ADVICE TOPIC CAME ABOUT
When we sat down to answer your marriage and intimacy questions and film this, what started as casual conversation turned into a deep and intimate discussion. We had thousands of people tuning in live and Instagram kicked us off because we were basically breaking the internet! (Wish I could say that wasn't true! #DarnYouInstagram)
To say we were humbled by the response we saw from our Q&A would be an intense understatement.
The emails, comments, and DMs came pouring in. The topics we covered, the stories and hardships we shared, and the resources we mentioned gave so many of you hope. It started hard conversations between you and your spouse that you had been burying for decades.
For many of you, it showed you that you aren't alone in the hardships and joys marriage brings. We were B L O W N A W A Y that our simple Q&A could spark so much conversation. Our conversation is deeply personal and incredibly intimate, but we couldn't ignore the flame it had ignited. Thus, going against what might be my better judgment (#MercyLetsHopeNot), we've gathered up all of our best marriage advice and are bringing it directly to YOU!
A FEW NOTES ABOUT THESE MARRIAGE TIPS
As I share these videos and tips, I just ask a few simple things:
- Please respect us and everyone else who chimes in in the comments. Pretend we are at a marriage support group. Don't shame us or anyone else, please respect the sacred nature of the things we are discussing, and keep them amongst our Freebs family only.
- We are married and will be talking about personal, intimate subjects and topics. If you are not married or are 18 or younger, please consider saving this post and reading it down the road when it becomes appropriate for you.
- Please note that we are a married man and woman, so we are referring to “husband and wife” because, well, that's what we are! But we love and respect relationships of all forms, so just take what we say and picture adapting it to your own situation as best you can.
- We aren't professionals, this is just our experience and opinions. Though, I really do wish I was Oprah…
THE BEST MARRIAGE ADVICE
Ok! Now that that's out of the way, let's get to the videos! We've broken each video down and notated where each portion starts in the video so you can easily find it if you need to rewatch it later.
Watch part 1 of our marriage series ONLINE HERE, or click and watch below:
Alright, keep on reading for a recap of some of our favorite marriage advice from this first video!
THE IMPORTANCE OF DATE NIGHT – 8:30
We make date nights a priority in our marriage, even though it can be hard to work them into the schedule. We've found that the hardest times in our marriage were the times we didn't focus on our relationship and put it first. We now plan for dates when we plan our year in advance. This ensures they aren't forgotten or pushed to the side!
We love to do group date nights with our friends to maintain those relationships because they're very important to us. It's also super important to have a date night just with your spouse so you can get that quality, uninterrupted time together! Put the phones down and keep movies to a minimum since you can't connect that way.
We have some fun get to know you questions we keep on our phones that help you dive in deeper and really get to know your spouse better. We still learn new things about each other when we ask them! We'll also turn to Google any time we want some fresh questions.
It can be hard to have date nights when you have kids, but work a babysitter into the budget. We've also done babysitting trades before, which worked out great and gave our kids a playdate with their friends. Do whatever you have to do to make it work!
OUR FAVORITE DATE NIGHT IDEAS
Date night doesn't have to break the budget! Here are some of our favorite free or super cheap ideas:
- 18 Free Date Night Ideas To Get You Having Fun Out On The Town
- Active Date Ideas to Get Your Heart Racing
- 20 Fun At Home Date Night Ideas That Are FREE
- 21+ Spring Date Ideas: Cheap, Easy Ways to Keep The Love Alive!
- 30 of the Best Cheap Summer Date Ideas
- 25 Fall Date Ideas to Keep the Romance Alive!
- 25 Winter Date Ideas — Cheap and Fun Ways to Connect!
As long as the focus and priority is on you and your sweetie (aka NOT the kids!), then you'll have fun together no matter what you do. If you do want to talk about work, the kids, things you need to accomplish at the house, etc., then set a timer to get all of that conversation out of the way at the beginning of the date. Once the timer goes off, no more talk about those topics!
MARRIAGE ADVICE ON DISAGREEMENTS – 14:40
Compromise in marriage is so important! Over the years, we've learned to lay down ground rules for when we disagree. This will save you if you both know how you want to handle them before they happen. Here are our best marriage advice tips for handling disagreements or fights:
- There is absolutely NO shame in seeing a marriage counselor! We went and it was awesome. We only had to go a handful of times, but it was so beneficial in our marriage. However, make sure you're going to a marriage counselor who actually wants to strengthen your marriage! It took us THREE tries to find someone who actually wanted to help us work on our marriage rather than quit on it.
- Take turns active listening. Focus on what your spouse is saying, rather than interrupting them in the middle of their thought. We will literally say, “I need you to active listen right now” when we need to get something off of our chest without being interrupted.
- When you're done active listening, repeat back what you heard them say with “What I understand is…” This will help make sure you're both on the same page and understand what is going on.
- Another great clarifying question to ask is, “Do you want my opinion or just for me to listen?” It can be very hard, especially for men, to want to try to fix things when really, you may just need him to listen. By asking or saying this upfront, it allows the other person to know if they need to give an opinion when it's all said and done or just be a listening ear.
Disagreements in a marriage happen! Fights will probably eventually happen, and it's okay! As long as you can both get through them and learn from your mistakes, then they'll have been worth it.
GREAT MARRIAGE RESOURCES
You study in school to prepare for the real world, so why wouldn't you study to prepare for your marriage?! Once you're married, we highly recommend grabbing these marriage books and giving them a quick read. All of the content may not be completely applicable to you, but they're still worth the time put into reading or listening to them!
Here are a few of our favorites:
Whether you've been married ten days or ten years, you can both get great marriage advice from these professionals! We both try to read the same book unless it's specifically written for the wife or husband to read. It's worked wonders for our marriage and helped us both understand how the other's mind works.
HOW TO GET YOUR SPOUSE ON BOARD – 24:17
This piece of marriage advice is huge! It's hard to ask your spouse to read a marriage book or go to counseling when you have a breakdown in communication and you're not super connected. You almost have to build their trust back up again. We suggest starting with the foundations first, such as turning the electronics off and focusing on each other, to really put the focus back on your relationship.
The next step is to be the one to drop whatever grudge you're holding on to, or whatever “list of wrongs” you're keeping in your head. Once you stop bringing up those things and throwing them in their face, they'll be much more likely to want to work on things! Be an example to your spouse. If you want them to do something (or to stop doing something), be the one who does it or stops doing it first. Once they see you changing your ways, they'll be much more open to changing theirs.
And my absolute BEST piece of marriage advice is to treat your husband like you did when he was your boyfriend! You know, back when you were actually trying?! 😉 Give your spouse the respect you gave them when you first started dating and you'll see some massive changes in your relationship.
THE PLATINUM RULE – 30:15
We've all heard of the Golden Rule, “Treat others the way that you want to be treated.” But have you heard the Platinum Rule? “Treat others the way that they want to be treated.” This is HUGE in a relationship! There's a good chance that you and your sweetie show and receive love in different ways. This is where the book The 5 Love Languages comes into play. Find out your spouse's love language and treat or love your spouse in the way that they want to be treated or loved.
IMPORTANT MARRIAGE ADVICE
Let's get on to the next video! You can watch part 4 of our online marriage series ONLINE HERE, or watch below:
Alright, on to a recap of some great marriage advice!
HOW TO FIND “ME TIME” – 1:28
After being home with the kids all day, my personality needs some downtime at some point during the day so I can give Bubba the quality time that fills his love bucket (read The 5 Love Languages if you don't know what I'm talking about!) once the kids go to bed. This is why I'm so passionate about productivity, organization, and systems. I firmly believe that you can “do it all” when it comes to the important things in your life! It won't all be perfect, you will have to say no to some less important things, but it is doable.
A lot of it comes down to scheduling time for things, which is why the Productivity Planner and block schedule system works so well for me! I usually have to have some “me time” between our family time/tuck-in time and our couple time together in the evenings. I need time to recharge by myself. I'm much more willing to want to give Bubba his quality time together after that.
FIND WHAT YOUR SPOUSE NEEDS TO FEEL LOVED – 6:50
This marriage advice is HUGE! You can't fully give your spouse what they need until they, themselves, know it. This is where His Needs, Her Needs comes into play. It really helps you dig deep and figure out what exactly you need to feel loved. It took me a few weeks of thinking on it to really discover what makes me tick.
However, not everything in the book may hold true for you! It goes into telling husbands that they need to show their wives plenty of affection, touching, and hand holding. That's actually reversed for us! I don't need the affections like Bubba does. So just remember that when you read a marriage book, take what applies to your specific relationship and discard anything that doesn't ring true for you.
REGULAR WEEKLY CHECK-INS – 10:14
The only way for the two of you to stay on the same page in your relationship is to talk about it! We'll have weekly check-ins on Sunday nights and ask the same two questions that each person has to answer: “How have I made you feel loved this week?” and “What can I do better to make you feel loved?”
This will allow you to think back on your week and gives you a chance to really discuss any ways to better your relationship! This little piece of marriage advice keeps you working on your marriage consistently and it will really show after a while.
BOUNDARIES WITH YOUR FAMILY – 11:40
Alright, let's move on to a subject that can get a little more difficult! When you married your spouse, you married their family as well. However, you have to change your priorities and make sure your spouse and children come before the family. If someone, either in your family or your spouse's family, are trying to come between that, it needs to change!
We got really lucky and we both get along wonderfully with our in-laws! But we know that's not the case for everybody. If that rings true for you, you have to remember that it's about respect. While it's always best to earn someones respect, sometimes it has to be given before it's been earned. Be the one who tries the hardest, is the bigger person, and kill them with kindness! It will really go a long way.
MARRIAGE ADVICE ON DISAGREEMENTS – 17:34
We've all heard the famous “Never go to bed angry” piece of marriage advice. However, that definitely does NOT work for us, especially me! Things never go how you would like them to when you're overly tired. We've found that when I've had a chance to sleep on it, things don't seem as big of a deal as they did when I was tired. It's much easier to have a discussion versus a big blowup.
That being said, don't let a hard topic or a big subject go over 24 hours without discussing it! Just because you're going to bed doesn't mean you get to skip over that topic. There's a reason you were having a disagreement about it, so it needs to be worked out.
When you are in the middle of a disagreement at night, sometimes it's good to take a minute when things are getting too heated. We will literally give a timeout signal and walk away from each other for a few minutes. When we come back together, we usually decide that it's time to go to bed and talk about it the next day once we're both well-rested.
HAVE HEAVY CONVERSATIONS IN PUBLIC – 20:42
We don't do this all the time, but this little piece of marriage advice has come in handy for us and saved our bacon more than once. When we know that we really need to talk about a heavy topic, we'll take it to a restaurant! It helps us keep our tones and behavior in check. This is why we suggest having money dates out of the house, since those are usually the heavier topics.
Money is one of the top reasons that couples fight. We've broken that down to give you some insight on why couples fight about money, along with ways to stop! Go enjoy your date night, get those hard conversations out of the way, and be amazed at how much stronger your marriage will be.
Note: There's more to this video than where we stopped, but we took all of those details over to our intimacy in marriage post that you definitely don't want to miss out on!
Whew! Now that you have all of our best marriage advice, what would you add? Let us know in the comments!
Looking for more great tips?
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- Get together with your friends and throw a party!
Now go strengthen your relationship!
Thank you so much for your last couple videos. I have followed you for years and love what you stand for but just recently I started watching your vlogs. The other day on instagram you posted while at wal mart about your bedtime routine and what that entails for the two of you. I was just hoping to get a little bit better clarification. I am also a member of the LDS church and endowed and as most husband are mine would love to have sex every night but for me that is not in my books…. we have 4 kids 4 and under. insert exhaustion! You made mention of wearing lacy underwear while getting ready for bed to have it be a normal thing? Just wondering if I could get better understanding of what you do and why since I missed it. Thanks
Thank you, Bubba and Jordan. I watched both of the Q&A Tuesdays and they were amazing. I am very much like Jordan and my hubby is very much like Bubba. I may have said no too many times though, as now my hubby will not initiate anything with me 🙁 So now I’m left trying to figure out how to fix this on my own. And it’s scary. I plan to use some of the tips your shared.
Great videos! You had mentioned in one of your insta stories about putting on cute panties/lingerie every night and then you would get in your normal pajamas. It sounds like a great idea but I was wondering if you could elaborate more on it. Do you do this each night when it’s “you” time? Like watching a show or hanging out and talking? Or just in your room?
I want to add this into my relationship.
Yes! we cover it in detail in parts 3 and 4 that I will post very soon on Youtube! Keep your eyes peeled!
Thank you both for putting yourselves out there! Love hearing lessons learned in marriage from a Christian couple. Please share more!
Can you please share the names of the books you recommend? Thanks!
Imagine if your roles were switched. My husband is like Jordan and I am like Bubba! It’s the most difficult thing. My husband also has depression (“managed” with medication) and that is a huge part of our struggle. This was a great Q & A! You guys are hilarious and awesome. Thanks for sharing!
I absolutely loved your honesty and bought both books mentioned. I received my book about properly feeding my husband just yesterday and I am reading it. I have already started having great discussions with my hubby about it. Good stuff! I love the book and love you guys! Keep up the good work!
Just read a book that was great called s.o.s so sick of sex. Thanks guys for being brave.
I loved the first Q&A but I missed the second one about marriage that you and Bubba did. Have you posted it to youtube or the blog? I can’t find it 🙁
The care and feeding of husbands by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
She comes first by Ian Kerner
I loved both videos. My husband and I often watch your videos together, and we happened upon them after you posted them on YouTube. It was really great to see that we’re not alone in what we’re struggling with. We love each other deeply, but struggle too – sometimes it’s easier to let those struggles with the day than the love we have for each other. I appreciate you both sharing so much!
This was one of my faves for sure.
You two are seriously awesome and I love what good examples you are in life and marriage.
I’ve been loving these marriage Q&As and am hoping to win one of the BBC giveaways!!
Thanks for sharing so much with us and taking time to do q and a Tuesdays.
This q&a was awesome! All of them are great!!
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS!! Thank you for being so real and helpful. Yku guys rock!
Listening to these has been such a blessing to me! I have so much in common with you when it comes to this subject and my personality so it feels good to know that I am not the only one with those struggles. Thank you for your tips on communication and serving each other out of love!
This was seriously so great to watch and listen to with my husband! It brought up a lot of great conversation topics and questions for us! We really appreciate you being so open, honest and outgoing! 🙂
This was seriously my favorite ever! And probably my husbands too because it got me thinking about intimacy. I loved your book suggestions and read them! Thank you!
I had only been following you a little while and had seen a few Q&A Tuesday’s before this one but this one really caught my attention! I love how vulnerable you guys are online because it helps others feel ok being vulnerable too. It helped me really reflect on my own marriage and I loved your routine of cute pajamas before bed- and my husband did too! Thank you!
I really enjoyed how you talked so freely– and I actually rented the Dr. Laura book you recommended from the library. Amazing.
I loved watching this Q&A!! Seriously, the things we don’t talk about much are so helpful to talk about!! Makes us all feel just a little bit more normal haha!
This hit home for me. Such a silent subject but soooo life altering in marriage. Thanks for being vulnerable!
I love these videos, definitely made change some thought patterns, thank you for being so open and honest..
This blog has been one of my favorites! I remember watching this live and being hooked on the subject! I was married in the temple and was divorced just a few years later (after our second child) I re married after many years. Marriage after one failed marriage is tough and intimacy for me is difficult you’re tips shed a new light for me and I thank you for it!
I love all the reminders! I feel empowered to be better and do better.
So helpful! Love to see thriving and experienced marriages. You guys are so cute and fun to watch. I hope you know how much we all appreciate the time you’ve put into putting this together.
I love watching your question/ answer Tuesdays. It’s my favorite Tuesday night activity. Thanks for all your ideas!
Listened to this with my husband. Thank you for being so open!
Thank you so much for sharing! It’s so comforting and reassuring to know that I’m not the only one who feels the exact same way that you do. I really look up to you and I enjoy learning from you!
My hubby and I were high school sweethearts and have been together for 10 years and married for 5. I watched the beginning of one of your marriage Q&As on Youtube and hit pause and ran and got my husband and forced him to watch them with me! We now listen to you and Bubba in the car every weekend when we are driving around running errands! I can relate with you so much (have major anxiety issues about having to be “ON” even when I’m not in the mood. We have learned so much from you guys and it has made it easier for us to discuss what we can work on in our own marriage! Please please please keep doing these videos!! We love them!!!
This Q&A was probably one of my favorites so far. I love how honest you guys are about everything!! I learned so much that I even made my husband watch the videos as well.
Thank you for sharing with us!!! Amazing advice.
Seriously loved this live video! It’s one of my favorites! I wish more people were like you two!
Girl I cannot tell you how much I freaking LOVVVVED these videos. You and Bubba are such good people to look up to and admire!!
Loved this series! Thanks for being so open!
Thank you for this! I made my husband watch all the videos with me!
You guys are great. Thanks for sharing parts of your life with us!
Y’all are such an inspiration! I’m very grateful y’all were so open and shared all those personal experiences with us! I appreciate it so much!
That’s one thing I love about you!! Over share open book. I attract people I want to that way and they don’t judge me.
This is hands down one of my favorite posts of all times!! You’re like my spirit animal – I feel like everything you say I can relate to!!
Thank you for being so transparent!! Y’all are amazing and I love your q&a tuesdays!
Not gonna lie – I love this! More people need to be honest and candid about relationships and how we communicate with our spouses! Marriage isn’t easy, but it IS worth it! ? Thank you for being brave enough to share!
I love that you are so honest!! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for all your honesty and sharing! I appreciate your post each and everyone! Thank you for all you do to help inspire and motivate this online community!
Totally bought the book you mentioned that I didn’t have. It’s next in my pile to read! (@jlyoungplus4 on insta)
You two are so brave! Thank you so much for putting yourselves out there and sharing! Watching you guys has made me look into my own marriage and figure out what we want and such. I just Can’t thank you enough! You are so amazing to want to help and guide people!
Pleeeeeeeaaaase pick me…. I can enter in a million contest and never win.
I love how real you two are. I think it’s great hearing bubbas thoughts too. Thanks for sharing!
I loved watching this one live. You guys are so awesome to be so open about stuff that needs to be addressed. Thank you!
I look up to you two so much. My husband and I have been married 3 years and have 2 kids together. Y’all are relationship goals for sure!
I feel like we may be the same person. I also could prob go the rest of my life being celibate. It’s sad, but true! Also spot on with your love language. Mine is the exact same! Your videos are always so helpful!!
Ps you and bubba are so dang cute!!
Your Q&A videos are always my favorites. It’s so great to see the way you two interact, and you always give amazing advice. Thanks for being so real and sharing so much of yourself!!
Love this!! Your guys are the best! I love how open and genuine you are.
I loved this Q&A! Thanks for your honesty. And thanks for giving an opportunity to enter into this giveaway!
Loved these Q&As!
This is the best video ever!!! Keep up all the good work you do!!!
I am the exact same way as you!! I don’t need touch like my husband does so it’s been something I have to consciously work on for him.
Hey I just wanted to say this was so great! Thank you for sharing all your ups and downs. After watching my husband and I had a long talk and it has really helped our relationships with being more aware of each others needs. Thank you so much for being so open!
seriously one of the best Q&As ever. You spoke so much truth and really helped so many of us feel “normal”.
Loved this video! I found a copy of The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands at the di and I can’t wait to read it!
I loved this series! It helped a ton to realize that things I have struggled with are not uncommon and can be worked through.
Thanks for talking about this! I actually put on hold the book you recommended to read about husbands. Can’t wait to read.
This is one of my favorites! Thanks for being brave enough to talk about EVERYTHING!
I love how real you guys are. Thanks for letting us be a part of your lives.
?????? Answering some tough questions, getting super personal, talking about topics that people wanna discuss, but most would never dream of. Hats off to you two.? Great lil series. #realtalk ??
I recently started following you on instagram off of a recommendation from another instagramer. I feel like It came Just at a time in my life when I was looking for ideas/answers to prayers. I have been working on self improvement spiritually, socially, physically, in parenting, being a better spouse, …pretty much all around improvement. Thank you for being real and relatable! You truly seem like an amazing person while helping others be amazing too! ?
I love your Q&A tuesdays, and of course you and bubba!!
I really enjoyed this video and how open you both are. This made me think about what I can do to improve how I show love to my spouse in the way he needs.
I love this! Such great advice!
Loved y’alls videos on marriage! I also really liked your video on the LDS Church. So brave and cool for y’all to share!
I loved this – thanks so much for sharing!
I absolutely LOVED your marriage subject! It not only validated my issues in our marriage but the tips were EXTREMELY helpful and have genuinely strengthened our marriage! I just love you!!
? THANK YOU GUYS!!! the hubs and I absolutely love you two and look forward to your uploads, insta stories and live q&a’s. We are actually in the middle of our FD, and our schedules are all over the place. We are hardly home at the same time, except for Tuesday’s. As we are trying to save as much money as possible and become debt free, you and bubba have become our date night entertainment! ?I make a special dinner and we sit down together and stream your live q&a’s!! ?
I would love to win the budget boot camp! I think you are so energetic and fun with all your info on saving money!
Loved this series about marriage on YouTube. Thanks for sharing!!
Love!!! Thanks for tackling marriage too!! ?
Loved this series! Thanks for being so vulnerable!♡
I watched all of these videos on YouTube it helped me pry open the communication gates with my husband and get to setting some financial goals.
This is all soooo applicable to my life! ??
I loved this! I am going on year 5 of my marriage and it’s definitely had its ups and downs but I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Love it! Thank you for opening up, I’ve taken to heart some of the things you have mentioned to help me be a better wife and it is just nice to know someone else feels/felt the same way I do about certain things.
I love how honest you are.
I Loved this video! I love how candid you both were, it’s just what I needed ? every week seems to be another topic that is exactly what I need.
I just love how real and honest you guys are! #couplegoals
I really admire how open and honest you guys are (especially with the tough stuff) I’m sure you are helping so many people and families. You guys are awesome!
I seriously loved these particular Q&A videos! It’s been a rough couple of years around my home and I learned some valuable tools to help my marriage get out of the rut it’s been in. Thank you!
Thank you! Thank you! This video had some awesome takeaways that i will use with my husband.
You two are amazing! Thanks for being so vulnerable and sharing with us so we can better our own marriages!
Thank you for these videos! It gave my husband and I some good ideas to stay connected, some good books to read to right my mindset as a wife, and it was just refreshing to hear another couple that has struggled too, and made it through. (Especially with the therapists – we had this too….what the heck?? Marriage counselors should KEEP MARRIAGES TOGETHER. Lol)
My husband and I work very different shifts but we are both home after 10. The advice about going to bed at the same time was great. We spend more time together during the week and I’m sleeping better. Going to buy the books you recommend as soon as I’m finished with some others.
I’ve been painting various rooms in our house for the last 4 days—I despise painting—so today I listened to a bunch of your YouTube episodes and it made my last day of painting much more bearable!
Thank you for being so raw, true and relatable! I sent this whole series to my boyfriend with high hopes he will watch them and understand me a little better because I feel like everything you said, was me 100%.
I loved watching this! And proceeded to order some of the books you recommended!
I love how honest and fun you two are! Thanks for sharing your experience and advice!
Love your honesty!
This Q&A gave me so much help. Im not married to my partner but a lot of you advice has been so helpful to us. Your openness, honesty and candidness is refreshing in this day and age so thankyou so much!
My favorite thing about you is just how honest and open you are! Thanks for being you! ?☺️
This is a must watch!!! Thank you guys for being vulnerable and transparent.
Thanks for being so open! It’s nice to know that we aren’t alone in our problems and you guys have offered some great advice!
You two are great examples of how to make a marriage work! Thank you for being so real, open, and honest!
I love you guys. This was so fun to watch with my husband and then discuss. Thank you!
Entertaining, fun and inspiring! Thanks for being so open and honest and giving great tools to people!
This was a good one!
Such tricky questions that everyone deals with but are too afraid to ask! I need to save this to my favorites. Thank you!
You guys are the best and so inspiring!!!
I love how open and honest you guys are about your life! It makes you so much more real and personable. I feel like I can actually relate to you guys and gives me hope for my life and makes me believe that I can actually achieve my goals and “have it all” and “do it all” thank you for sharing your tips and honesty about marriage. I love you guys! ❤️
Thank you guys SO much for your cander! I watched these both live, and now after a few months, my marriage is a lot happier. We weren’t even having problems but your tips have made us stronger than ever- so THANKYOU! #puppiesforjordan
This was so good!
Love this!! Every relationship is different and that’s what’s great! There’s always something new to learn from someone else. Thanks for hosting the Q&A’s each week, keeping the topics intriguing!
Thank you for these videos, I made my husband watch them with me because you hit on some topic that were also true for us.
It is always a great to learn more about marriage! Thank you!
Love this! Thank you for being real with everyone!
Thank you for sharing open and honestly! I love hearing that there is always hope even when others tell you there isn’t!
LLLLOOOOOVVVVVEEEDDDDD this one on IG! I even had my husband watch this one! Thank you for being so open and honest!!!!
Loved this series!
Thank you guys for being so open and honest. I love the book recommendations and I can’t wait to read ”the proper care and feeding of husbands”. I struggle with getting caught up in my mom life that I forget I’m a wife.
I really enjoyed watching a whole episode about something different. After following you for a while and trying to apply financial tips, it’s nice to get new tips to try and apply in marriage.
I love watching you both every week! I wash while I clean up dishes. Something I learned from you.
Thanks for being so honest and sharing your life with us! I feel like we are real friends.
I can talk about budgeting and frugal living all day long with my husband but when it comes to infancy in our marriage, it sounds like I struggle with the same things you were previously struggling with, except I am still struggling and finding it one of the most difficult aspects to overcome. Harder than any money challenges we have ever faced. I am going to definitely dive deeper by reading some of the books you have recommended and also take your advice about sitting down with my husband and discussing how I feel.
I absolutely loved watching all these and learned so much! My husband just ordered She Comes First. 🙂
Thank you for talking about the hard topics! It was something I needed to hear and my marriage definitely thanks you!
Thank you for being so open and honest. I just love all of the great advice. Thanks!
My favorite Q&A series! We just did a marriage boot camp through our church and this was an amazing REAL perspective that we needed!
My husband and I have gone through a rough patch this past year. I’m thankful for your tips and honesty and hope we can find a therapist too! Any tips when looking for a therapist?
Thank you for being open and honest. My marriage has really been struggling lately and it helps to know others, who do love each other and their family, are in the same position.
Thank you so much for this Q&A! It has been my absolute favorite and has helped out in many ways!
You guys are great- so down to earth!
I have watched this video over and over taking note. I am commenting to enter the Instagram give away for budget boot camp!!
I love this so much. I need to re watch with my husband!
Loved this! I had my husband watch them as well and we’ve had a lot of good conversations about how we could better our (already awesome) marriage. Thank you guys for being so open and honest, and being willing to tackle the hard stuff everyone else avoids.
Thank you for being so open and honest about struggles in marriage! My husband and I were able to relate and had a great discussion following the videos.
These videos have changed my perspective in so many positive ways. I’ve been married for 15years and thought I had it all figured out. I went straight to my library and rented the proper care and feeding of husband’s. Amazing! I find myself talking about it a lot with my friends and spreading the love! Plus the other little bits of info were helpful to. I’m so happy I accidently starred following you on Instagram. Your amazing!
These videos are extremely helpful as a young couple, with a young child. It’s nice to see a wiser, more experienced couple giving us newbies some tips!
Thanks for sharing your perspectives, that was such a tricky topic and you handled it great! You two are awesome!
One of my favorite q&a Tuesdays ever!
Of all the people I know and follow on Instagram, you are by far one of my favorites. You are changing peoples lives. You should be proud of yourself. Thanks for being so fun to follow❤️
Thanks for your honestly with the replies! It was so fun to watch but also such great advice!
I love that you’re so open about the issues you’ve faced! Very refreshing. Thank you!
I watched these “live” and loved your candidness!!! Thanks for sharing!!
Thank you for being so open and real! I’ve only been married for a year and I feel like we’re doing okay, but you have given me great ideas that I’ve already started implementing with my hubby and he has been very open to trying them. ?
Thank you so much for being so honest about everything in your life. I absolutely love watching you two in your q&a Tuesday’s, especially this one. Very helpful tips. I am really enjoying reading his needs her needs. Thank you so much for the recommendation. You two are the best!
Husband and I are planning to watch these together. Hopeful it allows us to talk honestly about some problems we are having.
I watched this live!! Thanks so much for all the info you gave!! It was very helpful and knowledgeable!! You two are amazing and I love watching your lives!!!
Marriage goals! Probably not just to myself but many others as well!
Thanks for the tips ?
Thank you both for being so honest and open about your relationship!
Hi Jordan (and Bubba)! ? I’ve watched all your YouTube videos and these series about marriage and friendship have been great!!!!
I’m a silent follower but I wanted you to know that you really inspire me and I wish you nothing but the best. Lots of love from Argentina ? ??
I loved watching these! You guys have given me some awesome ideas for my marriage! We have only been married for 5 yrs but we have gone through so much already, so some of your ideas I am excited to try!! Thank you for being willing to open up and share your experiences ??
You guy so helped my husband and I open up conversation about a topic that kind of slips they the cracks a lot. Things have been so good in our marriage lately and we open up all forms of communication now. We have had tough conversations and it has changed our marriage for the better. Thank you! You all rock.
Needed to hear this today! Thanks for being so open and honest!
You guys rock
Love this post! Thank you!
I think if Oprah still had her show she would definitely have you on! Thanks for opening up to help couples out there!
I absolutely love how open and honest you both are! You guys are so down to earth and I love watching your q&a’s!! Thanks for being you!!
Thank you for putting so much of your private life out there for others to see and learn from. You are real and don’t try to portray perfection which is what we all need to see and do for ourselves. Thank you for being such a wonderful example for women everywhere!
This really hit home for me. There was so much that I connected with that I didn’t realize was an issue. Thank you for sharing the hard stuff.
These are some great tips!!!
Thanks so much for sharing such personal information. It made me think of my marriage.
I watched this live on Instagram while I was getting ready for bed and my husband literally couldn’t stop watching it behind me! Thanks for being so open and honest (:
This is seriously gold. I loved this q&a!
Thank you for doing these. Your openness and willingness to share is what I appreciate the most. You talk about things that unfortunately many wouldn’t be comfortable talking about about. (Speaking as a Mormon) I feel like these things should be more of a normal things for couples to discuss. I feel like my marriage is awesome 13 Years in, and I still took away stuff that we’d like to work on and improve. I had the Hubs watch with me. So thank you!
This was such a good q and a! Lots to reflect on
My favorite q & a ever!!!! 🙂
This is great!!!!
This video and topic has helped me tons in my marriage. Great tips and self help ideas they help a marriage. Thank you
Love listening to your Q and A’s!
We used some of your ideas. Awesome. Thanks.
I love how fun you guys are and you can talk about anything!
Watched and rewatched loved it. Trying to get my husband to watch it.
These Q and A’s had great open comments without all the inappropriate junk! Thanks for keeping it real and clean.
You guys are so fun, I really enjoyed listening because you guys are so real and open about this! Thanks for the good tips!
I love how open you guys are and all the options and recommendations that you gave. I am definitely going to check out those books. I also want to say thanks for being vulnerable for your freebies.
Loved the videos especially the overshare! ?
This is the first video I ever watched of you. I watched it live on insta and I became obsessed with all things fun cheap or free! I’ve been hooked ever since. You are amazing I love all your advice!
I love how real you guys are! I’ve truly benefited form you honesty about marriage. It’s nice to know that even amazing couples like yourselves can have bumps in the road!
Loved this Q & A! Thanks for being so real and putting it out there!!
I watched these live and they were the best live videos I’ve ever watched. I loved how honest you both were and I completely related to your situation. I think a lot of people did. It was so nice to hear that other people struggle and that it’s normal, because we all know, social media makes us all think everyone’s lives are perfect!
I really liked this Q&A! I had my husband watch it with me. We are so much like you guys it made me laugh! Thanks for being so open and the ideas you shared! I am going to take your advice and get my hormones checked!
Love this post! I totally got us those books for Valentine’s Day 🙂
Activity listening! I love that concept. Sometimes I do just need to vent with no opinions. And the fact that he says “this is how I understood it…..” Just to confirm.
I love your live Q&As! This one my husband actually stopped to listen to part of as he overheard me watching it, which never happens! Thank you for being real, I found this helpful as I think about ways I could improve my marriage relationship. Thank you!
My husband watched with me, and it was very helpful to our marriage! Thank you for sharing on such a sensitive topic. I know it can’t have been easy for you.
Oh my gosh I love this! P.s. for an awesome Date night try curling (the sport). We found a place at a ice arena, took a class, and spent the entire night laughing. Best date ever! Will never curl again but dang it was fun.
I love your Q&A Tuesdays! You guys have such good advice ?
I finally watched these last week and wrote down many thoughts as well as the books mentioned to start reading. Great advice!
Love you guys and your honesty!!
LOVED THIS SERIES……
It really opened my eyes to the fact that I need to make sure I am taking care of my husband still when I have little babies at home. It is so easy to get caught up in the day to day stuff and forget to date your husband. Thanks for being so open and honest! I seriously love you guys and love q&a Tuesdays!
I totally appreciate your willingness to be so open about topics that people generally don’t talk very much about. These videos have been so helpful in opening up a dialog between me and my husband. These conversations can sometimes be awkward, but this has definitely helped us address things that we haven’t talked about before!
So apprecite your willingness to be transparent with these kind of sensitive subjects!
I appreciate these posts and videos! As private as intimacy is, I really do believe this stuff is not talked about enough, specially in a safe and mature manner. I love your insights and am doing my best to re-wire my brain!
Thank you for being real!!!! ❤️ Your blog.
Thank you guys so much for being so open!! This is such a “taboo” topic and you two nailed it!
I watched this a few times! I really liked how real you guys were and appreciated the openness.
I love reading new ideas and tips for a better marriage. Marriage is so sacred and important to my husband and I that we love listening and reading tips or ideas to make it stronger. We enjoyed you’re live Q&A about this topic!
I Love how you and Bubba are straight forward and funny. Your weekly Q&A is awesome and I look forward to it each week. Thank you so much for this Awesome Community of people.
Thank you for being so open.
Seriously I love these videos! You and Bubba are very candid and are so cute and wonderful examples to us all!!
Watched and re-watched this series and going to ask my husband to watch. Hope we can then sit down together to see what works for the two of us. We are recent empty nesters and 30 years together and 28 married. We need a bit of new breath back in our relationship. Thanks for your openness
Marriage definitely takes team work. You guys make a great team!
My husband and I loved this video series on marriage!!!!! We watched them all
On our date night in last week!
Funny story: years ago, my mom gave my sister, my sister-in-law, and me a copy of Dr. Laura’s book. She said that she thought one of us, in particular, needed it, but she decided to give it to all of us so she wouldn’t have to have that awkward conversation. I’m pretty sure it was one of the others that needed it. ? No, it really was a great book!
I think you two are just adorable together:)
We have made it a goal to go on dates at least once a month, it has been so good to escape parenthood for a couple hours and be able to talk and enjoy each other!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I learned a bunch of new tips I want to try in my marriage. I wish I could get my husband to sit down and listen to these with me! ?
I loved these. It was so incredibly relatable and made me feel more confident in some of the feelings I’ve had in my marriage. Thank you for your honesty!
Loved when you guys did this Q&A! It was awesome that you two shared
…it cut me off!
Experiences from your own marriage. It lets me know we aren’t alone in some of our problems as a married couple! Great ideas too. Thanks for sharing!
I watched this when you went live and I absolutely LOVED it!!
I love how open and honest you are about a topic many want to keep to themselves. Great examples of a great marriage.
I love that your best friend should be your spouse! Thank you for talking about it all and being 100% open and honest with all of us!
one of the best Q&A’s to date!! Loved IT!!!
Ahh! Your marriage Q&As were the best! You guys are so brave! I could never ? loved your many ideas about how to take good care of your marriage. I’m working on implementing many of your ideas!
My husband and I watched all four parts of this on YouTube together and we loved it. We got the books. We read them all. We talked about him. I’ve never seen him so open to discussion of these things. He always just went with the flow. It’s amazing. I didn’t think we could be happier but we are. And if we do fight, it’s resolved much more peacefully. ?? THANK YOU
Definitely second getting a counselor! Ours helped us communicate so much!
Everything about you is inspirational! You make me feel normal about day to day functions! This is so helpful for me! Having a toddler and a new baby can bring its challenges but your advice pops in my head when situations with the hubs come up! Thank you for everything!!
Hi Jordan and bubba!! I have loved watching these! My husband and I got married in October so we are still very new to this and I loved watching these with him and talking about this with him! Thank you so much for being willing to share!! ❤️
This advice is amazing! Thanks for sharing what works for you in order to help other marriages be more successful. Definitely things I’m going to implement!
loved watching these. you guys are such a real and honest couple! i will go back and reference these videos often. so glad i found your videos a couple weeks ago on youtube!! i’m hooked!
I always love your q&a’s, but especially loved your marriage series. Made me feel like we aren’t alone in our struggles. Now If I can just get my husband to watch ?
This has been such a game changer for my husband and I! It’s not like we were hard core struggling or anything, but we were a little stuck- a little too relaxed about certain things, not prioritizing our relationship or it’s growing potential quite as much as we should. This post and it’s videos had so much great advice! We watched it together, and it spiked about an hour and a half of one of the best talks we’ve ever had! So grateful! And so motivated to make positive changes in our relationship. Thank you thank you!
Loved that you guys were brave enough to do this video! Love the idea of playing music while being intimate. My husband and I have had fun building a play list.
I absolutely loved this post and the videos! You and Bubba are awesome! ?
I love how open and honest you are in these videos. It has made me realize how important making time for your sex life is! You guys are such a role model couple, keep up the good work!
Loved this whole marriage series! My husband and I watched it together and were shocked at how much we are like you guys! It was like you were talking through everything we’ve been through! Thank you so much for sharing; it definitely got us talking/thinking. We’ve been married for 9 years and the topic is still a little tricky and uncomfortable at times. You guys are so brave and generous for helping us through it by sharing your story.
This opened up a conversation that my husband and so needed to have. Thank you for talking about stuff that no one wants to talk about.
Loving the advice on this. My fiancee and I rarely fight but when we do it’s generally about being worried about money. I can’t thank you enough for the huge boost in confidence you and B’s advice gives me to help us.
This was my favorite q&a Tuesday you’ve done! Very helpful!
love this! Thanks for sharing!
You and your husband’s advice on married life has really helped me, and my husband too. I just want to say thanks real quick and please never stop the amazing work that you do! Love ya, God Bless!!
This was amazing. I watched it live.
Seriously LOVED these lives!! I’m still trying to get my husband to watch ?
Loved this live video and died laughing at all your “oversharing.” you guys are awesome and definitely are the best for sharing what works for you.
It is so refreshing to hear “real talk” about marriage. Marriage is such a blessing but its really hard. I am grateful for your example… Couple goals!!! ?
I’m bookmarking this to watch later! It looks awesome
Love this!!!! Love that yall are so open and honest about life, love and mooolah!!!!
And this is why I love following your blog more than ANY OTHER blog there is out there. You talk about everything and you’re not trying to keep things from the rest of us so you can have it all. Jordan you’re truly the best and I hope to be more like you ?
I want to try your budget Boot Camp
You two are great, love watching and laughing with you!!!
First of all I freaking love you guys. You help motivate me to be better everyday. Marriage is amazing but very challenging. I feel like everything you say Jordan I can relate to. I love being a stay at home mom of 5 but it definitely does something to you mentally and changes you. Thank you both so much for taking the time to share these videos. My husband and I are on the way to continue this successful marriage thanks to all the information you both share with us. Keep it up!
I love these Q&As they have helped me with my marriage in many ways. For example, remember to make date nights with each other more often. I also love how relatable they are and make me feel like I’m not alone ?? thank you for being such a great influencer ???
Thank you for this! You guys always have the best ideas and this doesn’t disappoint! You guys really put yourselves out there!
I love how open and honest you two are. Love watching the videos! ?
It really is helpful to hear what works for other couples. Marriage really is work, man!! But I truly believe it’s THEE most important work we can do!!!
You guys are so awesome. I’ve got a few new books ordered on Amazon thanks to your Q&A session! Thanks!
Loved this one!!!
Thank you for sharing! I loved The idea about getting ready for bed together and wearing cute clothes! This will be a game changer for us!
I loved all the info in this video series. Thanks for opening up your lives to inspire and teach others.
This is helping my marriage. Thank you!!!
It’s nice to see someone similar to me share. Thanks .
This was an amazing video you guys did. Loved how real you guys are ❤️
Thank you so much for being open and honest. So many great thoughts!
I love this!! When I first started following you my husband and I were driving from Utah back up to BYU-I and we listened to your Q and A’s the whole way up! It was so nice to have something guide our conversation. Now we’re hooked on the page fam 😉 Thanks for the food for thought!
Thank you both so so much for your honesty and willingness to share about what can be an incredibly sensitive subject! It’s a relief to know that there are other couples who struggle in this area of marriage, but a good reminder that it is so important to work on. It doesn’t have to be the “perfect” sex life that movies and TV shows portray, it just needs to be an intimate time that makes you both feel loved by each other in a special way that only the two of you share =)
Thank you so much for sharing this, it is so good to hear what you have to say about this topic. I read the proper care and feeding of husband’s, and while I don’t do a lot of it, I do need to work on some of it. So thanks for telling us about it.
I always look forward to watching you tues q &a’s!! You two are an inspiration. Spending the year living more intentional and your blog is a go to resource! Thank you!
I’ve watched bits of all of them. Great advice
I just loved this video series! My husband and I have listened/watched all of them and thought we could be doing just a little more for our relationship! We didn’t feel like we had anything “wrong” nessessarily with our relationship, just TOO comfortable. So with all your talk and suggestions we stepped it up a bit, I bought Cute and comfy pjs, and we tried new things as well as incorporated some old favorites we forgot about (like reading together). I can’t wait to read your suggested books and get even more close to my hubby! Thanks Jordan! -Megan
I can’t thank you enough for talking about the good, bad, and ugly of marriage. It’s so hard to feel normal when you see posts on the everyone’s picture perfect life and picture perfect marriage. I can really connect when people are real. Life isn’t awful but it’s not perfect either. Love your realist approach to life!!
I LOVE these! Thank you for being so open, honest, and vulnerable. I love that you are so real and easy to relate to!
Love this blog. You two hav such a fun and inspirational marriage that many can learn from. I also live how Dow to earth and real you get.
Hi Jordan and bubba!!
Iceberg been following you for about a month now and have learned soooo much form you!!! You have been an inspiration and a cheerleader to me!! The advice you give isn’t like gold so keep up the good work??
Love to watch your’s Q&A. I would love to chach you live,but it’s to late in my time zone.
Hubs and I watched this series ! Lots of great info!!!
We are watching these on our next date night!
My husband and I did the 50 questions at dinner one night. ? We have an incredible marriage but it definitely got a conversation started about some thing we just don’t talk about. I think everyone should try this. ? It changed the vibe of our marriage for sure and made it even better. So thank you ??
As newly weds, my husband and I watched this together! So so SO grateful for the tips so that maybe we can get ahead of any possible problems in the future.
PS I seriously love all your Q&As!
This is so REAL! Thank you for having the courage to share such sensitive and intimate information. This marriage thing is definite work but so worth it.
I recently gave birth to our first biological daughter and have a 20 month old adopted son. To say I’m not in the mood is an understatement. I’m completely exhausted and being intimate is not even on my radar. I know my husband is needing that so what you guys talked about filling each other’s love bucket makes sense. Thanks for sharing your ideas not making it weird. You guys are the cutest.
Love every bit of this! Thank you great tips!
I loved watching this live. These type of subjects are hard to come by, especially in the lds world. I didn’t get “the talk”at all from my parents, or siblings. It was more trying to figure it out with my husband and trial and error(which is good, but would have liked to know the basics from someone). Talking about it and not feeling weird about it is the first step. Thank you. And bubba is a great husband for talking about this for a man’s point of view.
I love your Q&A!
Jordan and Bubba are so fun! Thanks for always keeping it real and having great life helps! You guys rock!
You guys are hilarious!!
Just watched parts 1,2,and 3 yesterday! Great advice.
I ned this more everyday
After you mentioned the book His Needs Her needs I went and bought it. It has been a huge eye opener. It really has helped me look at marriage and intimacy differently. Thank you.
Best blogpost and videos eveeer!
Love how open your husband and you are! Look forward to your videos every week! Excited to try to budget book camp.
This was an awesome live stream! You said some many things I also feel ;in regards to intimacy) and felt so much better hearing that someone feels the same as me!
I can’t stress it enough, I absolutely loved this segment. It really got my husband and I to talk about things we kind of just don’t bring up. We know these concepts and so easy to forget them. We strive to have a open communication, loving and nurturing marriage and sometimes we both fall short of that. I also love knowing I’m not the o my wife who gets/feels some type of way. Thanks so much Jordan and bubba. ❤️
As a newlywed, it was important for us to watch this video. YAY FOR ETERNAL LOVE!!!
I love all the points you guys cover in these videos! It’s easy to think that we are the only ones with certain issues, but really most marriages will experience them in some way or another and we shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed!
I love how open you guys are. With my fiancé and I it’s really hard to communicate since he is in the military but we still try and make time for each other even though it can be difficult.
Holy moly! You were serious about getting intimate but I LOVED it! I think it’s something we need to talk about more because a lot of women have the same struggles!
I loved these videos! You guys are the best and I love your advice on date nights!
Thank you guys! My husband and I watched this together and it really helped us figure out some of the kinks we had in our intimate life… get it? Kinks. Haaa. You guys are awesome!
I watched these live. Y’all are so fun!
Love love love this!! Always looking for new ways to connect with my spouse.
I’m not married but I felt this was very useful and valuable information. Also very vulnerable and honest which doesn’t happen often any more.
I love how open you two are. Thanks for all the great advice, you have really inspired me to work harder on strengthening my marriage.
I just love you two!!
Loved these marriage blogs! -Mistin
Watched this with earphones while shopping at Walmart and had a few laughs out loud. Appreciate your candor.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and open about life. It makes it so Much easier to relate and apply your methods to daily life.
Omg you guys are hilarious! ?? You sound so much like my husband and I!
Haha! Thank you 🙂
Thanks for all the great advice! I love learning from those that have experiences in what they are teaching/sharing about.