In response to your comments

in response

Freebs! WOW. I had no idea my “The Truth About How Much Money We Spend” post would draw so much attention. Holy cow, can I just say I am so amazed at how passionate you all are! I have read and value EVERY comment that came in. Unfortunately I can't physically comment on all 120+ of them, even though I'd love to.

SO…I sat down and filmed a quick response to some of your comments, questions, and concerns…and have some ideas on how to change up the blog that I want your opinion on!!

Not that I want to drag out this process, I'm sure we're all ready to move past that post. haha! But just so you know that I hear you, appreciate you, and am going to be making some changes on my blog!

Be sure to watch to the end (or at least skip forward to around the 8:00-ish mark), I have some blog ideas that I want YOUR OPINION ON!! This is so important, I don't want to do anything without YOUR take on it! So let me know what you think in the comments below, or comments on the YouTube video.

Watch the video online or click and watch below:

Thanks again for everything!

Also, don't forget about the LIVE Q&A tonight at 7:30pm PST. Be there, or be square!!! (Can't make the live Q&A? Drop your question in this box and I'll get to them if I have time, or will answer them in future posts!)

XOXO

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Comments

  1. You are amazing! I had no problem with the post yesterday, but I now love you even more that you addressed ‘the things you did wrong’. 🙂 You seem like such a genuine person and for that I applaud you. I will definitely be tuning in tonight! Thank you for all you do!

  2. I came here to respond to an alert I got in my email of someone who didn’t like my critique of your post. I wish I would’ve seen this first instead of responding again to someone criticizing me for criticizing you. Thank you for apologizing. That’s all you can really ask of anyone. I really didn’t care about your recent abundance posts. I liked the Disneyland one. I just was sad for the lady that was being talked about. I personally don’t think you need to preface your posts your make any expensive program. I don’t think you will ever please everyone. It’s cool you will just be cognizant of unintentionally shaming people in the future. Thanks.

  3. I had no idea you saved for 8 months for Disneyland and 12 months for Europe. Maybe talking about saving/how you saved/how much, etc could be part of the blog. I was under the impression it was more of “we have extra money in savings, so lets go on this vacation.” (side note: i know the kids saved for Disney, but I don’t really remember you talking about saving as a family? I’m a pretty diligent reader, but maybe forgot?) I think that’s a nice balance because you’re showing the Phase 2 type post, but in a more attainable style (talking about saving along the way), instead of it just seeming like “oh, we have all this $$$$ – lets go on vacay!” (<I know that's not how you were, but just exaggerating to make my point bc that's how it could've come across to some).

  4. Hey! I think you should blog about what is important to you and what you are passionate about. You aren’t going to be able to speak to everyone in every situation. For example, we don’t have any debt, but are just trying to manage our money responsibly and stretch our dollars. I appreciate your tips on how to be frugal and smart with my spending as a fellow stay-at-home mom. We have never had a big vacation but are close to having the money saved for two good ones — partly thanks to your encouragement!! I don’t do everything like you do — I just take what I think will work for us and leave the rest. I haven’t read much of your travel posts yet, but in the future I think that explaining how long you saved up for it and maybe any special things you did to set aside the vacation money would be helpful. other ideas…what about a scrimp and splurge post? What your scrimp on, what you splurge on? I really would like some suggestions for skin care and hair care products. I think the two ideas you gave in your video are good if you are excited about them and they will work for you. I look forward to watching your next Q & A!

  5. Yikes – forgot to reply to your Q’s…

    In regard to the start-to-finish program. I’m intrigued but want to know more. It kind of sounds like it’d be better as a book rather than an online thing, but I liked the idea of the videos and presentations (which you can’t embed in a book unless it was an e-book), so I dunno. Undecided on that one.
    In regard to doing the spotlight on readers – I LOVE this idea! I don’t know that you’d need to do one per week. Maybe every other week? Or one a month? But I really, really love that idea and would be totally into reading more of those types of posts – briefly explaining a reader’s situation and giving your advice. Great idea!

  6. Hi Jordan! I love your honesty and openness, and seeing you guys do well gives me hope that the struggles my little family has been facing will come to an end and we will someday have our own abundance period. I liked your ideas for the program and emailing your our personal situations to hear how you would handle it. I feel like I have gotten pretty good at doing our budget but would love to get your input and ideas on how we could do better! I’m excited to see what new things you come up with!

  7. Hey Jordan, I did enjoy your post because it shows me what my life will be like once I’m done with debt and have reached the savings my family needs. I also can understand how and why some people didn’t like it, but I also read someone say that you can’t please us all. We are all different and we are all at different stages in our lives….with kids, with finances, etc. Just do what you love and write what you feel. I LOVE all your posts and I read even the old, old ones. Reading your blog is like reading a good book over and over again. I always find something new to work or something I missed in the past. Thank you for everything!!!!

  8. I am really saddened that you can’t share the happy, fun times of all your hard work from saving and the years you did without, without being judged!! I love ALL your posts and am very eager to see what’s next on your blog. You are so encouraging to all of us with such greats tips, etc. I do feel like some of the backlash does come from jealousy and that is so very sad!! Keep up the great work!! I love your blog!!!

    • I agree with Tonja! I love all your posts and don’t at all feel bothered when you post “abundance” type posts- since there are so many other posts with great frugal tips and tricks, sales, beauty and makeup shortcuts, and other things that interest me. Like many others have said here, Jordan- you can’t please ’em all. But it’s great that you try!! You’re the best! 🙂

      • I agree
        Enjoy your abundance!!
        There will always be those that don’t like something. You are so cool!
        Sounds like you are overthinking the solution. Maybe just grouping different ways is the answer. Idk!!
        Keep showing up as you!

  9. LOVE the idea of the reader spot-lights. I know I’d love all the insight I could get on our financial situation. I volunteer as Tribute!! Loved these last few posts. You are awesome!

  10. Thanks for both posts, I really enjoy your blog. You’re budget posts have incredibly helped us reign in our spending and start saving more. I would love to see posts on how you saved for your vacations or how you budget for special events like birthday/graduation parties? I think your method for monthly budgeting is excellent, so I would love to see how to save up for “special occations” and budget for them.

    Thanks!

  11. I like both of your ideas, the program and the personal spotlights. But it’s your blog, do what you want . But then also, keeping your followers and helping others is key too. It comes down to your values about your business.

  12. I really like the idea of the spotlight as well, but I agree that once a week seems like a lot. I’d also love to see more menu plans and what planning your meals looks like….start to finish! We try to eat the best we can so tips on saving at farmer’s markets, specialty food stores, or just saving on more natural products in general.

  13. Hi jordan, I love your blog , I love getting a glimpse of u and ur families life and how you have come so far financially in the past few years . I love the mix of frugal tips and abundance posts . I also love the posts that you share on your beauty tips .
    I hope the blog doesn’t steer to far away from what it is as I think it’s pretty awesome as it is !

  14. Hi jordan, I love your blog , I love getting a glimpse of u and ur families life and how you have come so far financially in the past few years . I love the mix of frugal tips and abundance posts . I also love the posts that you share on your beauty tips .
    I hope the blog doesn’t steer too far away from what it is as I think it’s pretty awesome as it is ! I think ppl are attracted to the blog because it helps people but also because you are an over sharer and ppl love your story and hearing about your life !

  15. I have always loved your blog. I have picked up so many tips from you- like how you shower at night, load your kids in the car and leave and get out and about so that you can keep more on top of house work, get season passes to places so you can get your kids out and about, freeze leftovers so you can eat them later, sacrifice some of your grocery budget so you can have a new shirt or throw pillow, how to use cheap make up and just make sure you have a fabulous primer underneath, how to shop at garage sales, how to throw a fabulous baby shower and not go to the store to buy a bunch of food and trinkets that everyone will throw away anyway, your bisquick quiche recipe is a go-to for me now! Anyway, the list goes on and on. You’re doing it right. You’re inspiring people to be content with wherever they are in life. Every family has to learn how to live within their means and be content no matter where they are and I think you’re a great example of doing that. I just want to add some positive feedback and let you know that I have listened to all your live Q&A’s and taken to heart so many of the tips you share and am also transitioning from scarcity to abundance mode and I really do understand where you’re coming from and I know that you never meant to offend anyone, and you definitely have NOT ever offended me with any of your posts. Keep being you! There’s a reason I have been a loyal follower for years!

    • Agree with this too!! I’ve been a follower for years and have never found you offensive, not even the littlest bit. In fact, I wish I lived near you so we could hang… that sounded weird… but it’s true! 🙂

  16. Just wanted to mention that I have really enjoyed your “abundance” posts, but like you, my husband and I have been scrimping and saving for several years and in the past couple of years have finally been able to enjoy having a little extra money! So therefore, I have found your posts on splurging, yet still saving money are quite applicable to me. I don’t think that you need to change what you’ve been doing. You have been giving simple, everyday money saving tips and then showing how to “splurge on a dime”. But do what you feel is right, because like others have said you cannot please everyone!

  17. This whole thing just shows me what a genuine blogger you are. You always give your all when it comes to posting new content, you humble yourself over feedback, and it’s clear you respect your readers. So many blogs I read have just turned into rstyle links and one sponsored post after another. So many bloggers block negative comments. I also go back and look at your old posts…I never do that with other blogs. Personally, I dont have any complaints about your blog. If something doesn’t apply to me, I just skip it for the day. I like the idea of turning the tables and helping a reader – I think we all could benefit from that over a specialized program. That sounds like a lot of work given the amount of programs already out there. If that makes sense. I like your budgeting tips but really love your mom tips. I used so many of your road trip ideas on our last vacation. I love simple, light stuff like that. Thanks for all your hard work. I can’t see anyone holding a grudge about this.

  18. Hi Jordan,

    I just wanted to say that I really enjoy reading your blog. I have started using your envelope budgeting system and it is really helping me 🙂 Also, I love reading all your posts– whether they pertain to me, my lifestyle, and/or my financial situation, or not. I am currently a graduate student who is living on very little money, but loves to do things that cost money (travel, go out to eat and to events with friends who make a lot of money, etc). I’m learning how to be more frugal, while still having fun. I look forward to learning more from your blog. I also always love your beauty and fashion tips and posts and would love to see more of those! Thanks for all you do 🙂

  19. I love your blog! I love your humility and willingness to look at things from someone else’s point of view! I loved the last post as well. I do agree that it could have been handled differently but I get what the point was. I am in a position pretty close to yours. We have lived in scarcity for a very long time and are in the abundance phase right now and we’re trying to figure out what to do without being silly. We are trying to figure out how to set ourselves up for success later when we might not have such an abundance. And we’re trying to ignore the hurtful comments coming from jealous family who feel as if we didn’t earn this phase in life. My husband and I have worked very hard to get where we are and if I’m honest life was easier when we had much less. I wouldn’t say poor us I wish we could go back to being broke but it is hard to navigate! I would love to see more things about what to do to set yourself up and I still want to see what’s going on with your life but like you said maybe with the background of how you saved, how long you saved and how you plan to make it all work. Please keep up your amazing work I always look forward to your posts!

  20. I love the abundance type post because even if you are in that scarcity stage it’s nice to be able to look forward and know that one day you can go to Disneyland without feeling the overwhelming need to sell your kidney! It’s nice to know all your hard work will pay off and you can do it without going back into debt! I think spotlighting readers situations is a great idea because it’s showcasing so many different relatable situations; but I think once a week would be to much since there are so many other posts we would love to see as well. ( I’m waiting on the edge of my seat for a house tour, Europe post, and more info on your year goal if thriving) I also volunteer to be a guinea pig for the “reader spotlight” 😉 I think that a budget 12 step program type thing would be difficult to construct since everyone’s situation is different so some chapters or videos maybe completely inapplicable. So why would I pay for something when only half would work for me ? Thanks for being their to help us! I love all of your posts!

  21. You are so sweet and so genuine, and I just love that so much! I think it would be really cool for you to do reader spotlights on occasion. You will get so many different situations, but there is bound to be someone else who is also in that situation.

    I have to completely agree with you. Living is Phase 2 so much harder than Phase I. It’s so much harder to say no, when you do have the funds available. I love your abundance posts, because that’s where we are, and we strive to be wise with our financial blessings, but I also know that others are not there yet, and they need wisdom and encouragement to get there.

    • I agree. We are now at the “I work hard and have saved – I should enjoy it a little.”…. SO dangerous!

  22. Jordan-

    First of all, I must say that I am absolutely inspired by you! I follow you like a stalker would (an online one 🙂 ) and I love everything you post… good, bad or in different. I really enjoy your posts about YOUR situations that COULD apply to readers… such as your tips on how to save money at Disneyland (for example, waiting until the end of the trip to get souvenirs in one place). So please, keep posting those kind of posts!

    Secondly, your start to finish idea… I LOVE this idea! I love that there would be posts, video, printouts, etc. My only thought would be that it would require us to pay a huge price for it??? I’m not sure I would be able to do that financially, but it’s just a thought.

    Your spotlight reader posts are an amazing idea! I love the weekly post because you have so many followers that if you did once or twice a month, you would not get through them in a timely manner. It would be nice reading other peoples situations because it might pertain to ours, but it could also potentially show us that there is a ‘light at the end of the tunnel’ in regards to debt, or saving for a trip to Europe, etc.

    With all of that being said, I don’t want you to stop posting about your life, family, situation, etc… I’d hate it if this blog became (primarily) a ‘let me be your financial accountant’ and less of the ‘let me show you how we have fun/grocery shop/etc on a dime’ type of a blog.

  23. Jordan,

    If I have anything negative to say about your blog, it’s that it’s too entertaining!!! I absolutely love everything you post and have burnt dinner more than once because of being so caught up in one of your posts. We are quite a ways away from a trip to disneyland, but I watched and read everything you posted about it because 1) you are such a good writer it’s impossible not to and 2) there were still a ton of things that I could apply to my life. That’s the thing I love about your posts, it doesn’t really matter if you’re in scarcity or abundance mode — they all have principles/ideas that can be applied. For example, just because I’m in scarcity mode right now doesn’t mean that I can’t use the idea of using ice in baggies when we pack our sandwiches from walmart to eat on our way to visit my inlaws who live 45 minutes away and we have to travel there during dinner time… thereby keeping us out of the drive-thru line on our way out of town. But I wouldn’t have gotten that tip to apply to my life if I hadn’t read the disneyland abundance post. I don’t go to walmart and then complain to management that not everything in the store is something I want/need to buy! That being said, I like the reader spotlight idea, but not really once a week. I think a lot of have pointed out that we love stalking you (as everyone says, in a non-creepy way!) and seeing into YOUR life — if you’re only doing two posts a week (totally understandable!), and one of them is about a reader — eh. I like the once a month suggestion that others have said. I personally would rather get your budget/finance tips as you have been delivering them instead of through a specific program. I think that would just be so much unnecessary work for you when the information is either already on the blog or could be delivered in a much more entertaining way (as in, it’s much more entertaining and easy for me to apply a tip (like put a hair tie around your kids pj’s when they are too big or make burritos at home and eat them in the car instead of drive thru on the way to soccer practice or use an envelope) when its got a cute video or pic and a blurb about the idea). I think a specific program could turn into “ugg… I have homework.”

    To sum up: love you, love the blog, hope it doesn’t change too much. Post what you love so you love what you post and will want to keep posting for us!

  24. I also love how genuine you are and I love a lot of the tips on your blog. I don’t want to be rude or controversial but do you not consider your cruise last year a vacation? And am I the only one that would consider a trip to Arizona or a beach house a vacation? And am I the only one that could save like crazy for 12 or 8 months and still not have enough money to go to Europe or Disneyland, let alone in the same time frame? I think it’s great you can do that and none of my business how you spend your money but I follow your blog more for your lifestyle tips (makeup tutorials, activities for kids, how you survived your husband being gone..), not really your “frugal living” tips because I just really don’t consider your lifestyle frugal. I think your blog is great but definitely more of a “lifestyle” blog, not so much a “frugal living” blog. Just my feedback, hopefully it helps you figure out what direction you want to take with your blog.

  25. I think both of your ideas sound very interesting and helpful. I hope you don’t completely stop with posts about your life and where you are. My husband and I are not completely were you are but we are not far behind and it would be really helpful to have tips now that we are in phase 2 as you said. Thanks for all you do!

  26. I didn’t think you shamed the post at all! I read it before you addressed it, and if I hadn’t I definitely would have hunted for it. lol

    We all get defensive sometimes, so don’t be hard on yourself!

    Thanks!
    ML
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  27. Hi Jordan! Have been following you for quite awhile, and I’m so sad to see you like this! Don’t let the haters get you down. You shouldn’t have to feel ashamed that you get to go on vacations, and you certainly don’t need to defend yourself! Keep your chin up, gorgeous. And don’t quit blogging, b/c this Freeb gets so excited every time she gets an email in her inbox from the Fun Cheap or Free Queen!!

  28. Jordan you are the best. Just keep up what you are doing. Honestly, don’t change a thing. Your inspirational stories help me better than any how-to, step by step. Keep the spotlight on you because you make frugal living seem actually doable and maybe even fun. Please don’t change stuff. There are a bazillion stuffy websites out there that can show you how to budget etc but they don’t include you and they bore me to tears. Keep up the good work!

  29. I love the idea of a reader spotlight each week! And I would love to be your guinea pig! 😉

    Love ALL your posts Jordan. I’ve gained sooooo much from your blog!!!!

  30. I read through the comments and have the same thoughts as so many others but I feel I just have to tell you how great I think you are. I’ve been following you for a few years now and I look forward to every post you write. Even if they don’t apply to me, you are just so genuine and honest, I feel like I can just retain the information until a time when it might be useful. Please keep posting all your normal fun stuff, but I do really like the idea of featuring reader situations, it would be nice to see the differences. Keep being your fun, friendly, awesome self. And I’ll keep being sad that I’m all the way in PA and cant come to date nights or other fun Utah area events. Thank you for what you do!

  31. Just wanted to say that I love the blog both past and present. I have noticed a change in content but am really enjoying it, keep up the amazing work!

  32. Jordan,

    I silently followed as things unfolded regarding your post. Like you, I felt like both points of view had really great input and valid points. I absolutely LOVE the idea of a program as well as a weekly volunteer. I know personally at this very moment my husband and I are going through some rough times. The other day I almost sent you an email pouring out my heart and finances to see what your thoughts/views would be. I didn’t because in my mind I thought, she’s an incredibly busy lady and I’m sure she doesn’t have time for that. So, the thought of there being a weekly family who gets to have one on one advice from you while helping others is such a wonderful idea! I love how you chose to embrace the comments and change things up. It speaks volumes about your personality!

    • Shauna! Thanks for the comment. I know how it feels to be overwhelmed and helpless. I’m happy to help. You’re right, I only work a few hours per day/week in order to be a mom first, but I’m always happy to help. I do offer one on one consulting which could help you muddle through and form a concrete plan. [email protected] if you’re interested in learning more! I’m happy to do what I can!

  33. Jordan,

    Loved your post and I totally understand why it is hard to let go of money when for so long you were so used to saying no we cannot afford it. It is like someone else said: loosing weight is the easy part its the maintenance part that is hard. Same for debt vs having income you can now spend and do fun things with. I can see how it can be easy to fall back into old habits and to be scared to do so.

    You have nothing to apologize for, you did nothing wrong. People need to realize there is always gonna be someone with more than you. The key is to be happy with your current situation: whether that is paycheck to paycheck, paying off debt, or living abundently. To not judge someone else harshly especially someone who worked hard to get where they are. And someone who continues to try to motivate others to do the same.

    You can look at your neighbors all day and be envious of what they have and say they don’t have the right to talk about their successes. Or you could look in the mirror and realize that is the only person who can change your current situation. You have to want it bad enough and be smart enough to realize that successful people aren’t your competition they can be your motivation to achieve the goals you think right now is impossible. You dont have to always live paycheck to paycheck.

  34. Still shocked that people who have been following your blogs for years (and presumably your advice) still need basic debt posts and are upset that you took your own advice and got out of debt and documenting where you are in life now. I also dont understand why people don’t just take what is relevant to their lives and leave the rest? I don’t agree with you at all about your approach to babysitting but I dont bash you for it! I just skip that post and go to a Page dance party clip. 🙂

    My only request –

    Please don’t discount those who have applied your principles and are growing as you are growing in financial freedom!I dont see a lot of blogs that actually deal with “phase 2” as you call it. It is either luxe life (really high brow) or getting out of financial ruin. There is a huge subset of people in the middle. Please don’t abandon a section of your audience to please the Susies!

  35. Love your blog Jordan . I would like to see reader spot light segment. I’m also debt free but would love more insight on staying that way and living a more frugal life.
    Thanks!

  36. Here’s what I think. If someone wants tips on making their shoes last longer instead of buying new ones, they should click that post. If they want tips on doing Disneyland on a dime (heck yeah!), they should click that post. That’s what the titles are there for. Obviously don’t click something that isn’t relevant to you. I can’t believe that even needs to be said, people.

    Jordan, I hope you don’t change a thing about your blog. There is a great variety and balance of information already. Anyone complaining that they were subjected to a post title that said you went on vacation…needs to grow up. Seriously. You can’t please everyone. Some haters are always gonna hate.

  37. Hey Jordan! A couple things….

    1. My thoughts were a little more simple. While I am more of the abundance phase I still prefer to live on the cheap… 🙂 That being said – Why don’t you do a throw back to your old posts once a week but update them a little bit. There is no need to completely reinvent the wheel.

    2. Be careful with the idea of giving advice for a particular situation. I would hate for you to accidentally open yourself up to law suits…. People can be volatile if things don’t work out like “they” want and you don’t need to be in the crossfire.

    3. Please keep in mind that this is a blog and not a financial service that people are paying for. You are doing an AMAZING job (I have been following you for 2 years) and while I find that your posts aren’t always relevant to my life I definitely do not hold you accountable for that – nor should anyone else.

    4. Maybe with all of your connections you could feature bloggers from other parts of the state who’s principles you agree with. That would give us all an opportunity to cater our learning geographically (I am in North Carolina).

    CHIN UP! You are doing an amazing job and don’t let the naysayers get you down.

    <3 Aliyah

    • Loving all Aliyahs ideas! I don’t think I would be into a whole program but I like the advice idea you suggested.

  38. I enjoy your blog! I think you need to continue being true to yourself! I personally have not been offended by your vacation blogs. I find them interesting. My husband and I have been married for over 20 years and have really only gone on one vacation, our honeymoon. We work 365 days a year for our business and we try to take two days off a year to go to a nearby hotel with our kids. That being said, our situation is different than most, due to our business and one of our kiddos has autism and vacations are difficult for that child. We have chosen to accept our situation and try not to be envious of other people’s lives. This is difficult at times….in saying that, I think people should try to live their own lives and keep negative comments to themselves.

    And reading how to save money on vacation or hotels should be interesting to people….and something they can apply to their own family vacations….

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