WARNING: This has (almost) nothing to do with finance or frugal living. And I'm going to pretend to be Dr. Phil for a hot minute. But don't run, I promise it will be worth your time!
You may or may not know that every Tuesday Bubba (my husband) and I sit down to answer your questions live. It's called Q&A Tuesday, and if you're not there, you are most certainly square (wink). Write it on your forehead and be first in line next time, it's a real ride.
This last week we saw a trend in the questions you Freebs wanted us to answer, and they seemed to center around marriage, and the challenges that come along with it. Now, I know we look like sisters, but believe it or not, I am no Oprah. Oh, and to set the rumors straight, we are not sisters. BUT…I have been married for 10 years. I do have 5 kids. Our marriage is strong and thriving, sure. But we have been on the brink of “wow, are we really going to make it?” to the climax of crazy-stupid in love, “holy crap how did I get so lucky to marry this person??” (and every stage in-between). So I guess you could say that while I don't have the letters behind my name that a formal therapist has, I did get a masters degree in the school of the hard knocks and happened to graduate top in my class of “learn the hard way”-ers.
We sat down to answer your marriage questions on Tuesday, and what started as casual conversation turned into a discussion so deep and intimate, we had thousands of people tuning in live and Instagram kicked us off because we were basically breaking the internet! (Wish I could say that wasn't true! #DarnYouInstagram).
To say we were humbled by the response we saw from our Q&A would be an intense understatement.
The emails, comments, and DM's came pouring in. The topics we covered, the stories and hardships we shared, and the resources we mentioned gave so many of you hope. It started hard conversations between you and your spouse that you had been burying for decades. For many of you, it showed you aren't alone in the hardships and joys that marriage bring. We were B L O W N A W A Y that our simple Q&A could spark so much conversation. Additionally, many of you have asked me to post the Q&A so you can go back and watch it with your spouse, remember the books and resources we mentioned, and some have even talked about sitting down to watch with your girlfriends.
Well, Freebs, we listened.
Our conversation is deeply personal and incredibly intimate, but we couldn't ignore the flame it had ignited. Thus, going against what might be my better judgement (#MercyLetsHopeNot), I've decided to not only post the Q&A on YouTube, but we did a SECOND Live Q&A about marriage this week that I will add to this post and put on YouTube as soon as it is completed and edited!.
In the meantime, as promised, here are PARTS 1 and 2 of our marriage Q&A:
As I share this video, I just ask a few simple things.
- Please respect us and everyone else who chimes in in the comments. Pretend we are at a marriage support group. Don't shame us or anyone else, and please respect the sacred nature of the things we are discussing, and keep them amongst our Freebs family only.
- We are married and will be talking about personal, intimate subjects and topics. If you are not married or are 18 or younger, please consider saving this video in your archive and watching it down the road when it becomes appropriate for you.
- Please note that we are a married man and woman, so we are referring to “husband and wife” because, well, that's what we are! But we love and respect relationships of all forms so just take what we say and picture adapting it into your own situation as best you can.
- We aren't professionals, this is just our experience and opinions. Though, I really do wish I was Oprah…
Ok! Now that that's out of the way, let's get to the videos!
Watch Part 1 online, or click and watch below:
WATCH PART 2 ONLINE HERE, or watch below: