Do you guys remember waaaaay back when I mentioned this awesome motherhood retreat I went to with my cute SIL? Well guess what? I asked the co-founder April to speak to us today to help us wrap up Focus on Relationships month! She is going to talk about the magic that happens when we unplug from our electronics (namely our cell phones), and plug back in to our kids. Has the Unplug Challenge been as hard on anyone else as it’s been on me?? P.S: Spoiler alert! She is also giving away some MAJOR prizes so be sure to read to the bottom. Take it away, April!
Hello to all of you! I am April Perry, Co-Founder of powerofmoms.com, a gathering place for deliberate mothers. Jordan’s Focus on Relationships month totally supports all we do at Power of Moms, and I’m excited to share some thoughts with you today. At times, we all struggle with distractions that take us away from our children. But I have learned personally about “The Magic that Happens When You Put the Phone Away”:
I was sitting at my son’s basketball game one night, talking to a friend whose smart phone recently died. She had been using a “non-smart” replacement phone for a couple of weeks until she could get a new iPhone with her plan renewal, but in the process, she noticed something that I think will resonate with all of us:
A smart phone can often become more of a distraction than a help. And by always being available to “everyone else,” we, as mothers, are becoming unavailable to our families.
Have you felt that, too?
There’s been lots of talk about what role “the phone” plays in motherhood, and I think we’re all trying to figure out the right balance, but it’s become more and more clear to me in the past few months that I have to be extremely deliberate about how much time and attention I give this smart phone of mine.
Because there is something else that matters more.
Early last year, I decided that I would only check my email and text messages at certain intervals during the day. Wow, that was a switch, but I’m keeping at it, and it’s made a big difference!
One Friday afternoon, I picked up my son Spencer from kindergarten just four hours before I needed to leave to our L.A. Power of Moms Retreat. There were some last-minute emails flying around and a few logistics I needed to figure out, but as I got out of our van, I resisted the urge to check my phone for any incoming messages.
“Hey Mom! Do you know there’s a black car down the street that looks just like my friend Phoenix’s?” Spencer asked.
“No, I didn’t know that. What does it look like?” I responded (with real interest…not distracted interest like I sometimes show).
“It’s kind of like a rectangle, and it’s kind of long. Do you want to go on a walk to go see it?”
It was raining outside, and I was hungry, and I still needed to pack things up and get the kids settled before I left. Typically, I would have said, “Maybe another time, honey, but we need to get in for lunch.”
But this time, I said, “Yes! Yes I would like to go on a walk. Do you want to take our umbrellas since you didn’t get to take one to school today?” (He’d had a bit of a meltdown that morning because I wouldn’t let him use a golf-sized umbrella when he walked from the car to his classroom.)
Well, Spencer got the BIGGEST smile on his face, so we went into the garage to get our umbrellas, walked up the street, checked out that cool black car that looked just like Phoenix’s, and then made the two-minute walk back in the rain.
I did take out my phone to snap a picture:
I’ve let myself get too distracted by my phone and my task list and my schedule. And I’m pretty sure I’ve missed out on some special moments like the one above.
There are all kinds of reasons and excuses–good ones–that I can provide, and I AM with my children for most of each day, but I don’t want to miss chances to walk in the rain with my kids or paint nails on the kitchen floor with my daughters or laugh with my husband at night before I go to bed (because he is hilarious).
So I’ve made the decision that when my kids are around, I’m going to do everything I can to be accessible to them. And that means I’ve been missing text messages and not responding to emails as quickly as before. But something sweet and precious and magical is happening in my life that I simply can’t afford to miss.
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(2) Then in the comments for this post, let us know which one you did and share a way you’re trying to be a more deliberate mother.
(This might include one way you’d like to strengthen your family relationships, how you’d like to get more organized, or how you recognized a “magical moment” within your own family and made the decision to put aside the distractions.)
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